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MIL's? or rather witches in human form??
I can't remember if we've talked about the MIL situation ladies? How is everybodys?? Anybody's chanced since they officially tied the knot?
Mine is not wonderful. a small example: the VERY DAY after our wedding, DURING the gift opening she threw a total tempertantrum and ran outside (in iowa mind you in January) "hoping nobody would pay attention to her" (yeah right) and got all upset and was crying to DH because she hadn't gotten any "DEREK" time to her self withOUT me all week!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IT WAS OUR WEDDING WEEK, WHAT THE HECK?! To top it off she made him and his dad (he's an only child) go with her to coffee to try and catch up her needed alone time - she told him i was specifically not invited!! So we stopped opening gifts so they could go do that and my family and I went to the church to clean up.
um yeah...i don't care for her 
Re: MIL's? or rather witches in human form??
I like my ILs, but they will never take the place of my own parents. H and I were raised slightly differently. One example being my mom never went to college and raised 4 kids, while H's mother earned a Masters and taught for 30+ years. Another example is that I have three siblings (one as young as 14) and H only has one (therefore my house growing up was constantly entertaining). I think that was something that I had to deal with early on in the relationship.
They live about 7 hours away and we see them practically every holiday. I think that's going to be a major point of contention in the future because I cannot envision going up there for every holiday with young children. I talk to my MIL every few days and about various things. My SIL is about 2 hours away and we talk on e-mail more frequently than on the phone, but she is very busy with her blossoming career.
Best of luck with the ILs. All the advice that I could give is the generic - you and your H need to be on the same page with them.
TTC buddies with MrsTRAV and KayLaVi2010
My MIL is an odd lady.
I love her lots. She only got married in October herself.
DH is an only child so she used to be super duper protective of him and he could do no wrong. Now though, her new H is the light of her world and DH is out in the cold to some extent.
It's probably healthier, but it is a little hard to hear her say that they're moving to europe to be closer to family in earshot of her only son...
Where we met - Mount Isa
a small mining town in the Australian Outback. Neither of us are from there but we both moved there in the second last year of highschool. He was moved next to me in maths class to stop him talking. It didn't work.
My IL's are all pretty cool which is good considering that every single one of them live right here in Wichita! lol. DH's mom & dad are divorced, so there's two sides to his family. His mom's side are pretty "typical family". They're fairly close knit and get together for all the holidays and gramma's birthday. They were very accepting of my and my daughters from the begining. Before DH and I were even Engaged.
His Dad on the other hand, Total JERK for the longest time. A bit of background on dad: Dad is still very bitter over mom leaving him more than 10 years ago. I mean to the point that when dad found out we were engaged, proceeded to tell DH that he would NOT be in the same bldg as THAT WOMAN! A couple weeks before the wedding when I was finalizing the seating (read here: finding a spot where he would be comfortable and wouldn't start crap), he got really bitchy and told me that DH's step-dad could sit in the back of the church where he belongs and that DAD was supposed to sit next to mom. Say what?!!! The same man who said he wouldn't be in the same BLDG with her, now wanted to sit right next to her. Bottom line was that he was just trying to be a jerk and be difficult and maybe even get some control in on me and it was NOT HAPPENING!!! I plainly told him that I was sorry he felt that way, but I was NOT going to make Step dad sit in back any more than I would make my own stepdad sit in back. That he was more than welcome to sit in the 2nd row at the aisle just oposite of my own dad and that he would please behave himself and not make anyone else uncomfortable because this was OUR day, not HIS and that I would promptly remove him from the situation if he started making any of our other guests uncomfortable. I added that DH was really looking forward to having his dad there and that it means alot to us both for him to be there and be happy for us...... I still owe him a square kick in the pants for getting everyone all worked up and then him being just as polite as he could be. He even went up to mom and told her congratulations. Mind you, they hadn't spoke or even laid eyes on each other since the divorce hearing. With any luck, this was the breakthrough he so desperately needed and will now be able to move on with his life without making everyone else miserable.
maybe