just became a maid of honor... please help in need of ideas!

vland27

tonight my SIL asked me to be her maid of honor, of corse i said yes. Im an only child she is all i got for a sister we are close. and get along. her wedding is very small just my daughters and her brother and my self are in the wedding. i would love to make her shower and bachorlet party as amazing as i can, but i have no ideas. the last wedding i was in besides my own i was 5 the last wedding i attended was about 4 yrs ago. i would apprecitate any ideas on either one or what should i be doing for her. i dont really know lol. thank you in advance

SA7206

I think the first most important things to know are your budget and how many people are expected to attend. 

Lil'BlackDress

I'd get her opinion on it, just to see how many girls she'd want to come to the bachelorette and if she has anything that she had her mind set on.

What is she like though? Would she want to go dancing? going to a concert? or doing a wine tasting as some wineries? Go to a pub with some live music? Completely depends what kind of girl she is.

SBS0628

Whenever I've helped plan these events, I've started by gathering this information:

1) Guest List (the shower is usually female family members and close friends who have been invited to the wedding, unless she and her FI would prefer a couples shower, which is co-ed but usually just younger people. At least, that's been my experience. The bachelorette party again is young female family and friends who have been invited to the wedding).

2) Budget - are you paying for both entirely? What do you want to pay? Will anyone else help in other ways (i.e., making food or desserts for the shower)?

3) Time Frame - how close together will the events be? How close will they be to the wedding? Showers are usually 2-4 months before. Bachelorette parties can range to months before (like over a holiday weekend) to a couple of days before (mine was Thursday; my wedding was Sunday).

Once you've figured those out, you can start to think about themes, food, favors, decor, etc.

I agree with PP -- for the bachelorette party, check in with the bride to see what she envisions. For example, I HATE clubbing and/or bars that are super loud. We started just my MOH, my bridesmaids, and I at Color Me Mine where we made coasters and a commemorative wedding plate. Then we met up with my friends for dinner and headed to the county fair that was in town for a concert.

daisy21le

I completely agree with the girls above!

Here is the link to the showers I've done that may be able to help : )

http://www.lesliesarna.com/party-ideas-bridal-showers/

http://www.lesliesarna.com/party-ideas-baby-showers/

I also gave you my baby shower link, it's got some good ideas you could use for bridal.  

Have fun!  It's great to be a Maid of Honor!  

Adjudi-Kate

Don't think you have to do it all on your own, even though you are the only attendant.  Recruit help from her female relatives or friends.  It's always fun to brainstorm together and delegate tasks.

Check with the bride to see what she's thinking in terms of both parties.  If she says, "No strippers!," you can immediately cross that off the list of ideas for the Bachelorette Party!