Courthouse wedding?

Shoogah

Long story short our wedding was cancelled due to FHs family interrupting things.

 A big wedding (planned and paid for) is now out of the question--did anyone get married at the court house? Thoughts?

 This is my #2. His first.

 

Thanks!

TNchickadee

What sort of advice are you looking for exactly? And why is your wedding canceled, especially if it is already paid for?

Bison1376

My friend got married at the courthouse.  It was beautiful.

Mrs.Rad888

Regardless of where you get married, you are still married. Don't let your dreams of a pretty princess day let you forget that.

BUT....when you marry your FI, you get his family in the deal. If they have already been allowed to interrupt your wedding, where does it end? If your FI isn't able to stand with you when establishing and enforcing boundaries, this is going to be your life.

How did the future IL's manage to interrupt things this badly, and how did your FI respond?

kimnelson09

Why do they have that much power over your wedding? If you have let them get away with tanking your paid for wedding, you might as well go ahead and tattoo "doormat" to your forehead. 

doglove

I need more details here.

MKESweetie

I think getting married at a courthouse is NBD. No better or worse than a church, garden, etc.

But, listen to Mrs.Rad - you are getting his family in this package, and it sounds like that is probably a problem for you. I think you should be really careful about this wedding & marriage...

tlsjmsgirl

I am new, but I felt I had to respond to this. I too am about to be married for the second time. My first marriage went to mush largly because of his Mom. She was way too involved, she dictated how many kids we have, she planned our first wedding and not because I wanted her to. You need to have a talk with your FI and find out where the boundaries are. Don't let your inlaws ruin your day. It needs to be what you want, not what others want or need. It's your memories that matter.

ChavayJakov

Depending on how and why the parents "interrupted" things would dictate to me whether it is reasonable/unreasonable to cancel a paid for wedding.  

If it is not impossible to do your planned and paid for wedding, I wouldn't cancel - although (again it would depend on the "whys") you may have to tweak and edit your original plans for the wedding ...

I don't think a court house wedding is a big deal - you can also do other little nice things that aren't court house, but small, if privacy is all you're after.

 

That said, I think it would be foolish under the circumstances I can perceive equating to future in-laws interrupting the actual wedding plans, to do a courthouse thing.  I suppose, too, it would depend on how the FI is interpreting everything, too.

Blackwidow13

Bison1376:

My friend got married at the courthouse.  It was beautiful.

I'm not buying that a courthouse wedding was beautiful.  It's a courthouse!

midgetothemax

I like the ceremony better at my mom and stepdad's courthouse wedding with a small reception to follow better than my church ceremony.

SugarLoafButterCup

What matters is what you and your fianc? put into it.  If you treat it just as reverently as you would treat a giant wedding, then who cares if it's small?  It's about your pledge to each other, not the ceremony itself.  I mean, not having a funeral wouldn't make you any less dead.