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What would you do?
Our close friends are having a Jack & Jill baby shower this Saturday in the Boston area. We were planning on going but now I'm not sure because here's our current situation:
Josh has a business meeting all day on Saturday so we'd have to fly out around 5 and we'd end up being a couple hours late to the shower. Then, I would leave the next morning so I wouldn't really even be there very long. Josh is planning on staying as he has to be in Boston for work on Monday anyway.
We don't really have anyone to watch Lola, but if I only stay one night, I might be able to ask our neighbors or someone to watch her. Although, Josh thinks I should take off Monday and stay in Boston (which I don't feel comfortable doing on such short notice).
This whole thing just seems like a huge cluster fugg to me. Josh reallllllly wants to be there (as do I) but he's able to stay and hang out whereas I will be there for like 16 hours.
What would you do? I feel like if the situation were reversed, I certainly would not expect them to come to my shower even though we are close friends. I suggested to Josh that we skip the shower and go visit after the baby is born.
WDYT?
Re: What would you do?
Wow, that is a short amount of time for all you would to organize and travel so I understand why you are stressed about it.
I totally would feel the same way if the situation was reversed and would not expect a friend to do all that to make it to a shower. Could you call them and explain and let them know that it would make the most sense for you to visit afterwards? I am sure they would understand. That happened with a few of my friends who live out of state and it meant so much more to me that they were able to visit after Parker arrived than make it to my shower.
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A couple hours late to the shower is where I'd say no, don't go. If you'd be making all of that effort, and still miss the bulk of the shower. Not to mention with crazy weather, there would probably be delays.
I think that visiting them later is a good idea. Your friend will probably appreciate the adult conversation after she's had the baby. You can send a gift with Josh on his business trip, then arrange a visit with both of your families at a later time.
Just my take. Being a two hours late to a shower kind of has you missing the bulk of the party. kwim?
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We were planning on going all along (and already let them know we'd be there), but all this stuff with Josh's work just came up, so that changes things.
I'm glad you said that Genevieve, because as much as I'd like to see them now, I'd also love to meet the baby in a month or two. Then, we'll have time to actually stay and hang out for a bit.
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Our best friends live in PA so they were only able to make it to see us after he was born because of their work schedules. It meant so much more to us for them to actually get to meet him and at the shower it was so hectic we would not have been able to chat much anyway. And definitely it makes much more sense if you guys are able to stay longer and actually hang out that way.
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Yeah, probably. Although it's at a restaurant, so I'm not totally sure they'll be doing the traditional shower things like opening gifts and playing games. I have a feeling it's going to be a more relaxed atmosphere where people can just hang out. But still...yea, it seems like a ton of effort to only be there for one night.
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I'd definitely wait and visit once their baby's born. Like Genevieve said, getting to meet the baby is even more special, as much as it sucks to miss a good friend's shower. You can make a long weekend out of it and get a chance to really hang out with the couple and maybe even babysit to let them go out to dinner or something. Craig and I enjoy doing this for our out-of-town friends sometimes (and will be thrilled if some of them can visit us and do the same!)
Ok...I think that just made my decision a lot easier!!!
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Glad I could help! haha
This is what I was going to say. It doesn't look pretty, and I feel like it is going to take days for the airlines to recover from this storm anyway. That, combined with the quick trip anyway, would lead me to not go this weekend, and prioritize a trip in a couple of months.
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