September 2009 Weddings
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Friends
Do you feel like you've grown apart from some of your single friends since getting married?
For moms or moms-to-be, do you feel like you've grown apart from your friends without children?
Do you find that it's difficult to make friends with other couples who have similar interests?
Re: Friends
yes - I seriously feel like I have no friends since I got married. They are all at different points in their lives and we have nothing in common anymore.
I think it's difficult to make friends with couples. Mainly because H and I never leave the house.. lol We're always working and we're both awkward and shy - that doesn't bode well for meeting new people.
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Both Michael and I have been going through transition periods with many of our close friends. Mainly because we're all traveling through different stages of life at different times. It's difficult for all of us to relate to each other or understand why this person doesn't like clubbing anymore or why the other person hates staying in on a Friday night.
But, I have to say that some of the friendships are tightening back up again, now that some of my friends are settling down (not in a marriage way, but in a no-longer-rabidly-seeking-nonstop-boys-and-drunkenness way). The good friendships do last.
We haven't had much of a chance to make "new" friends, but we have a few couples that we get along well with already, so I'm not sure we have a need. I can barely keep with the friends I already have lol!
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Do you feel like you've grown apart from some of your single friends since getting married? Some yes, most no. I feel like it didn't have much to do with being married, but the amount of time spent together and differences in lifestyles.
For moms or moms-to-be, do you feel like you've grown apart from your friends without children? On the opposite side of this scenario, I don't feel most of my friends have separated from me due to them having kids. Some have, but then again, it is the difference in lifestyles outside of the kid thing.
Do you find that it's difficult to make friends with other couples who have similar interests? No. We're pretty sociable. With my business, I tend to meet new people often that I meet socially after.
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I only had one super close friend who was/is single and she literally doesn't even talk to me anymore. I guess she's just interested in her own life and figures I can't be bothered with her now that I'm married? I dunno what happened with that.
We have some married couple friends. Sadly, some of our closest ones live in MA and RI. We do have a few couple friends locally though....which is nice. We used to be super close with our neighbors but since they had a baby 8 mos. ago they've kinda been keeping to themselves. I guess I could go see them more, but I always feel like I'm intruding:/
During our massive blizzard last week, Josh met this other neighbor by helping him get his car out of the snow. Turns out he's engaged and it seems like we all will have a lot in common. We're trying to gtg with them soon!
Josh and I joke that whenever we meet a new couple we always seem to like one of them a lot more than the other. Lol. It's not always true, but sometimes;)
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I've felt that way BEFORE we were married. I have about 3 close friends (besides my sister and SIL) and 2 have kids already and the other lives half the country away. My two who have kids had them young (one unplanned, the other just got married young); and I feel farther from them because of the kids. I'm at the point now where Danny & I are finally settled into our life and are ready to go out and have fun, but now we have to contend with bed times and possibly spending the "adult's night out" with a few kids. This is sorta the same story with SIL. I love kids and I love my friends' kids (and niece/nephew), but I work with 5-year-olds all damn day...when I go hang out, I want to go hang out and not have to watch what I say or be respectful of the children.
The other friend half a country away, I think we've just grown apart. She has her own life over there. When we lived nearby we had a lot in common and would do a lot together, but I haven't seen her since my wedding and I just don't think we're at the same place anymore.
Then there's my sister...who I actually feel CLOSER to since I've been married.
And I do find it hard to make friends with couples. Danny is very outgoing and it balances my shyness well (he's like my friend-making wing man), but there are very few couples around here that we'd want to hang out with anyway. We're pretty rural and know almost everybody already. The ones we don't know are because we don't WANT to know them (i.e. bad people, not just cuz we're snobby or something).
Do you feel like you've grown apart from some of your single friends since getting married? not because of getting married, but because of moving away. And that's normal. I think lately I've gotten a little closer to my single friends, possibly because now I'm more comfortable leaving Clint behind and hanging out with the girls. And because of moving, now we're close to 2 of Clint's friends.
For moms or moms-to-be, do you feel like you've grown apart from your friends without children? Not a mom, but I worry about growing apart from my mom-to-be friend. So I told her that since I'll be unemployed, I want to come down once a week and help her out. She's thrilled (and I'm thrilled, I want to meet the baby and make sure we won't drift apart!)
Do you find that it's difficult to make friends with other couples who have similar interests? Our only couple friends are people I was friends with before Clint, and whose boyfriends/husbands/etc are conveniently similar to, and therefore friends with, Clint. I just don't have many friends here- we're kind of antisocial lately, we're just so tired and don't want to go out very often. And Clint's friends are all elderly widows from his bridge group, ha.
Do you feel like you've grown apart from some of your single friends since getting married? This is a tough one - Mark- not at all. His friends are pretty much exactly the same. Me, I cant see much of a change, although some go in and out a lot. I have seasonal friends due to jobs and family situations as well, so that is a little harder to judge. My girlfriends that live a little farther I see more spring through fall since they live far and the weather doesnt help with this, however, we still talk all the time.
For moms or moms-to-be, do you feel like you've grown apart from your friends without children?Most of my friends have kiddos- with me being almost 30, most of my friends were already at this stage in life so its not too hard.
Do you find that it's difficult to make friends with other couples who have similar interests? I think there is an ebb and flow with our friends. We dont have all things in common, however, that usually helps the situation.
When we moved we had to kind of start over as far as friends go. Our friends from Maryland come down sometimes in the summer and we visit in the winter so we don't see them all the time, but they are my closest friends. Two of them are getting married this year, but since Matt and I have been together since high school and we were all friends back then, nothing really changed when we got married.
As far as making new friends, we hardly ever meet new couples, we are just friends with people we work with since we see each other so much during the summer. I have one good friend who I see all the time and she has a 5 year old. H and I like to go out with friends and stuff like that, but the beach isn't really a great place to go 'out on the town'...
On the contrary, I feel like I've grown apart from my friends who DO have children. I think this is because a.) we're a lot busier with taking care of our kids, b.) we don't stay out as late because we like to keep Ellie on a consistent schedule, and c.) we disagree with a lot of our friends' parenting styles and this has caused a lot of disagreements.
I've always found it difficult to make friends, so this is nothing new for me, but yes.
Do you feel like you've grown apart from some of your single friends since getting married? Absolutely. I would say the majority of my friends are either married, has a child, or is in a serious, committed relationship. We just couldn't relate anymore, no matter how hard we tried.
For moms or moms-to-be, do you feel like you've grown apart from your friends without children? N/A
Do you find that it's difficult to make friends with other couples who have similar interests? Not really. Almost all of our couple friends have kids, but we are all really close. While DH and I don't have children, yet, we love them and don't mind spending an evening with a crying 5 month old and sharing a bottle of wine as fun.
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We try to make couple friends, but I'm too antisocial to ever go out, and he's too tired, usually. We're going to a Superbowl party this weekend to hang out with a couple that we haven't seen in over a year...yay us? Also, the bigger the crowd of people I'm around, the more quiet and shy I am (and thus, awkward) so...yea it's just really difficult for us to make friends and go out, lol.
My single friends are all long gone. His still text and call him, but they all live in different states so we don't see them very often.
None of our friends have had babies, yet, so I can't speak to that.
Haha! Oh Kelly's... once in a while, but I have to keep Matt around so I don't get pounced on. They do have a good bar though.