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What do I do when his family cant stand me? (Please help)

I have just recently married the love of my life, and everything is just as I hoped...as far as OUR relationship goes.

 You see, I am a bit younger than him (not by much, but still) and for him this was his second marriage (he married in his teens to my adopted sons birth mother). Because his sons mother is no where in the picture (Nor had she been, almost since birth), I have taken over the role of mother and caregiver. (He calls me momma and I deal with all the traditional 'motherly' duties, and am estatic for the opportunity). While our family is by no means normal, it works for us, and we couldnt be more happy...except...

 His parents and most of his siblings cant stand me. All but one brother didnt even ATTEND the wedding. I have been nothing but gracious and respectful, but they seem to already have this idea that I only married their son and brother because of selfish reasons (what these selfish reasons  are? I have no idea).

They are forever dumping on the way I deal with my son (They said I was "emotionally abusive" because I gave him an 830 bed time) and seem to have no interest at all in getting to know me.My husband says that their opinion doesnt matter and seems more than content just cutting them out of the picture. He says that after his first marriage crashed and burned within a year, they have been excessively critical of the idea of him marrying again, even though its been over five years...I know that the problems in this family run deep and that its my husbands battle to fight, but he doesnt see a reason to care, and it bothers me that our joined family is broken from the beginning. What can I do?

 

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