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Birthday Gift for FIL, help!!
Okay, so I have a problem with this almost every single holiday and it's getting exhausting. Here's a little description of him...
My FIL has had a dream to leave his life here and go live on a sailboat with his long time girlfriend for the rest of his life. There's nothing wrong with dreams, but this dream is affecting his life in a negative way. He has been planning on leaving for 4 years now. He sets a date, and then when that date comes and goes, he sets another one, and it's been like this for years. So because he thinks hes leaving at the end of the month, almost EVERY month, he doesn't want anything that he can't take on a sailboat. He lives in a tiny studio apartment with his girlfriend, and he recently "got himself fired" from a really well paying job so he could collect unemployment. He considers himself a utilitarian, so doesn't like anything that isn't necessary. Doesn't read books, doesn't watch TV, doesn't go anywhere or do anything. He basically sits at home and watches movies with his girlfriend all night. During the day, he comes over to our house and helps my husband with house improvements (building a pond, stuccoing and painting the house, etc.). So he's very helpful to us and we'd like to get him something nice, but he never likes anything we get him.
I did capitalize on the movies for the last two holidays. We got him a 6 month paid subscription for netflix for fathers day so they could stream movies on their TV. They didn't use it. We created a "date night" gift basket for Christmas with gift cards to a movie theatre and a really nice steak house and blockbuster with candy and popcorn in it. Didn't use that either. Ahhh, I'm just at a loss here. I'm tired of spending money on him just so we have something to give him and him not even using it or liking it, but I also wouldn't feel comfortable NOT getting him something, you know? I just know he won't use any gift cards (either won't remember or just not want to). We have contemplated getting him some things for his boat, but we honestly believe that he is never going to leave and we don't want to encourage it. (His gf just found out that she's going to be a Grandma for the first time, so there is no way that she is leaving with him now, but that's a different story.) We'll get him boat related gifts if and when he actually does leave. Anyway, any advice??? Thanks 
Re: Birthday Gift for FIL, help!!
A puzzle with a scene of a sail boat? Or one of those sailboat models he can build, I think you can get them at a hobby store.
Clock that looks like steering wheel to sailboat?
Or, take him to do something and pay for it... dinner, bowling, movies
FIL's (and fathers) are hard to shop for!
We are taking him to dinner, but I thought a gift would be nice as well. A puzzle and a sailboat model are actually a really good idea! I like those. Thanks!
A gift certificate to a pizza place (or Chinese food, etc.) that delivers!
I would also look at travel companies and see if there are things that you can use on a boat but can also use other places - like a GPS system, lightweight water resistant clothing, binoculars, etc.