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alright...how do YOU feel about bananagate?
i haven't read everything...but i get the jist.
and i don't remember EVER being fed at the grocery store. or having my mom let my sister have food either. are these parents for serious?
Re: alright...how do YOU feel about bananagate?
5 PAGES??!! FFS....
Me? I don't eat from a store unless we're talking a full blown hypoglycemic attack. So its possible, I've just never encountered the situation. It beats cracking my head on the linoleum floor when I pass out.
For my future, hypothetical kid... I don't think so. MrB + I, we're in agreement. I'll be the Mean Mom. I'll say "No, you cannot throw an epic temper tantrum in the store. You can eat XYZ I packed for you (from my MacGuyver-esque bag) or we can go home. Do YOU want to go home?" As a kid, I never ever EVAR wanted to go home. That's the your ass is grass conversation in code.
I'm sure if we're talking an under 2 year old kid with a bring-the-roof-down screaming and it'll make him/her stop, yeah, I'd prob pre-"steal" the banana and pay at checkout, but I'd be pretty embarrassed/pissed about it.
Call me Kat =^..^=
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I am one of those judgey childless people who get flamed when they share their options. It?s obvious that I "could never understand until I have a kid" so I choose to remain silent on these topics?.. while silently judging.
My opinion is contradictory but here goes...
- She's a bad mommy because she started this banana thing the first time the kid asked/screamed/etc. I don't think its a good idea to start bad habits like eating food in the grocery store that you haven't paid for yet.
- If your kid wants a banana then I don't think its a big deal to give it to them and pay later. If the kid is under 2 (and for some even over 2), there isn't much room for reasoning. Shutting them up for the sake of the other shoppers is appreciated.
Clearly I'm going to be a perfect mom
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This is how I feel. I rarely share how I feel, even when asked....
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haha! That is how it went down in our family! We knew if mom had to take us home or to the car, our butts were going to be sore for days, so we toe'd the line. I know kids under 2 - 2.5 are pretty hard to reason with, but only in extreme cases would I open/eat food before I paid for it.
I'll chime in, I'm a childless, and I don't want children person. If the kid is squalling for a banana please just give the kid a damn banana. It will make my shopping and your shopping experience better.There is nothing more obnoxious then trying to grocery shop and you can hear the echoing of a crying kid all throughout the store. I hate kids that aren't taught manners, but there is a huge difference in saying no to a toddler and no to a 5 year old. Sometimes it's not worth fighting over a banana.
That being said I think as long as you pay for I'm ok with it.
Also who has time to watch other people in the store going "are you going to pay for that banana?" Who makes that person the Banana police and rather who cares that much.
I honestly can't believe it went 5 pages.
If you pay for it, I don't see the big deal. I am guilty of opening a pack of wagon wheels this morning at the grocery store to keep DD entertained before I actually purchased them. I am going to buy them, so I don't see the big deal.
Wagon wheels. Awesome.
Call me Kat =^..^=
I will admit that I've totally judge moms in Target before who have done this. . not necessarily with a banana though. It usually a bag of chips or crackers that the kid is carrying around with greasy hands still touching everything in the aisle. But I also admit, I judge a lot of moms in the buckhead target on weekdays. . . .it's surely because I'm jealous they aren't working and I am!
I'm in the childless camp so my opinion doesn't count but I've never eaten food in a store before I paid for it. If I got into a full on hypoglycemia attack I get a snack, pay for it, and then got sit in the car and eat it until I feel better. I wouldn't even be able to focus to keep shopping b/c of the hot flashes and immediate feeling that I'm going to black out.
As I said in the original post though, if you know your kid is going to flip out when you get to the bananas, why don't you go to the produce section last? It just came across to me as common grocery store practice for her to stop off by the bananas immediately upon enterting the store to give the kid something to entertain him while she shopped.
***ETA** - I do think the girl who made a comment to her was a whackjob though. It definitely doesn't warrant some passive agressive bs.
Also in the "no kids, not planning on it" group, but I've never understood opening/consuming food prior to purchase outside of emergencies. I was always taught that it was rude/improper/wrong and just the threat of what would happen at home kept me in line. Granted, when my mother's sugar is crashing, she'll grab something to save her life (literally - she has passed out), but that's a lot different than appeasing a child. And before I get on a soap box about the need to constantly appease children, etc., I'll stop now.
If the kid all of a sudden started screaming and only a banana could save my ears, then just call me trifling. If this became a habit one of two things would happen.
(1) If the kid is old enough to understand, they will not be visiting the grocery store with me until they learned how to behave.
(2) If the aforementioned scenario is age prohibitive I will be bringing snacks.
Finally, I will just say I am happy I shop at Dekalb and Costco. They both have samples which could possibly assist me in these type of situations.
Ok..I will chime in here too. I am childless as well, so I don't know what it's like, etc. I do think that parents should teach their children manners. I do agree that a child that is 2 and under doesn't understand the word manners. To keep my nephew from having a fit, I use the distraction method. Find something else for them to focus their attention on that won't be disturbing to others.
With regard to the pre-consumption....I totally did that last weekend. I was SOOOO thirsty and walmart was right next to the shoe store, so I walked in to buy a bottle of water and stood in the line for FOREVER just to check out....I opened the bottle and drank it in the line. It was bad, but they should have had more registers open on a Saturday.
I'm guilty of letting my kids have something before I've paid for it. I got the impression that this has become kind of a routine for this lady and her kid though so now he expects it. Not the best plan in the world but hindsight is 20/20. I'm guessing that she didn't mean to let that become a habit and now that it is she doesn't see the need to stop it. I don't care, at all, even kind of a little bit if someone chooses to let their kid eat a banana while they grocery shop. Especially since she paid for it. My overall attitude towards other parents is "don't judge me and I won't judge you." Being a parent is hard, every day. It isn't realistic to think you can assess the kind of parent someone is from one 5 second encounter in the grocery store.