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Anyone pop over to the Getting Pregnant Board from time to time?
Just curious I've been checking out the GP board for about a month to month and a half now and was curious if anyone else has been over there too?
I'm also wondering is there a TTC board that isn't with a lot of women dealing with fertility issues? I know I'm probably going to come of as insensitive but anytime I post questions over there (my husband and I are just starting TTC) everyone's response is to buy/read the book "Taking Charge of your Fertility" and also that I need to begin charting and taking my temp daily (preferably in the morning) with a basil thermometer. Now call me crazy but I don't want make this whole TTC process a science experiment and my husband feel like he's just a piece of meat I need to make the end all be all baby!
Just wondering if anyone know of other boards on the nest or should I move over to the bump with questions? Hopefully I didn't offend or piss anyone off who may be on this board and that one too?
Re: Anyone pop over to the Getting Pregnant Board from time to time?
Amanda Williams Photography
I never lurked or posted on GP, but I did post on Trying to Get Pregnant (TTGP) on TB. It's a great board full of info, but you would probably get a similar response. Most of the ladies on TTGP (and probably GP for that matter) are not experiencing fertility issues. Charting is just a great way to get to know your body. Many girls don't chart or take breaks from charting for various reasons, but if you want to do more than simply take out the BC, you may want to look into it.
I didn't chart for the first 2 cycles I went off BC. I attempted to use ovulation predictor kits (OPKs), but never got a positive result. Because of that, I didn't get a positive pregnancy test. I decided to try charting as soon as I started the 3rd cycle. I discovered that I Oed earlier than the OPKs were even telling me to test. My first cycle charting turned into this pregnancy.
Is it necessary? No. But I honestly never felt like it was a science experiment, and I learned more about how my body works- which is never a bad thing. I would say if you're not really wanting to commit to charting right now, try for a few months without. Use OPKs. I know MANY people that have gotten pregnant just by using those. But if you don't get a BFP, don't discount charting as an option.
Good luck!
Carter born 5/28/11
BFP 9/27/12 EDD 6/11/13, MC 9wks, no HB
Have sex every other day and take prenatal vitamins and let nature take its course
Make a pregnancy ticker
You asked for advice and I gave it. I spent some time writing a thought out response taking your original post into deep consideration. I was only trying to help you. This was an unnecessary response. If you knew what you were going to do, why even ask? Guess you just wanted to gripe about GP.
Carter born 5/28/11
BFP 9/27/12 EDD 6/11/13, MC 9wks, no HB
you asked for answers and you got them. there's no need to be THAT dismissive when someone who had success GP happened to follow advice that you didn't like. if all you want is confirmation that what you think is right then a public message board isn't going to work well for you 95% of the time. Any time you mention even the possibility of IF people are going to recommend charting to give yourself the best odds.
go see a physician if you want Serious Medical Advice (for real).
Amanda Williams Photography
What she said. Not that I'm around anymore (oops, sorry ladies). Amber, I'll c&p your response and save it for YEARS later, when we start TTC. I personally would listen to the thoughtful, well said advice of a preggle with serious knowledge of her own body over the regurgitation of what every grandmother says.
OP, you sound rotten insensitive. I would highly suggest you just steer clear of all of the pre-PG boards unless you tone that crap down, because they will probably hate you and your idea that understanding how your own body works is a science experiment. It's called being a WOMAN, not an ostrich.
Planned Executed
Whoa. I don't think she meant to come off like that. I read that response totally different than you did. LOL
On any other board, Midgey would have taken a shiit storm for her saying what she did. On one of the pregnancy boards, she would have been called names and flamed for days.
Maybe I am the one reading it wrong but I gotta say, my eyes popped out of my head when I saw this thread go in a different direction.
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my read shelf:
43/70 books read
Back in June 2010...
Just letting ya know what my doctor told me
I dont want to plan plan plan, I just want it to take its course! Good luck!
LOL Really? hahaha Guess I shouldnt post on those boards anytime soon
hehehehehehe
Yeah. Some woman get really upset by not being able to have a baby. You didn't watch Sex and the City, did you? One of the women, Charlotte, THREW herself into having a baby. She went off the deep end. And the women I know in real life that do that, I firmly believe the anxiety and stress make it damn near impossible to have a baby. Bodies are weird like that.
Some women that I have seen on those types of boards are so into charting, planning, etc... I know it's hard, but it seems like if your body doesn't want to right now, there is a reason.
But what do I know? I never want to ever have a baby. LOL. Never wanted to before and still don't.
It's almost here! Weeeeeeee!
my read shelf:
43/70 books read
Back in June 2010...
Nope never seen the movie, have no interest in seeing it LOL
I understand y some women chart, and do that method, but I also agree with ur statement about the anxiety and stress. So I figured since the OP didnt want to do that stuff or hear it I would just tell her to have lots o sex! LOL
Def will stay away from those boards!
U might not want to have a baby, but you have 2 of the sweetest, cutest, little girls at home and thats all that matters
Aw thanks!
It's almost here! Weeeeeeee!
my read shelf:
43/70 books read
Back in June 2010...
Wow holy crap is all I've got to say! Possibly what I wrote didn't come off correctly I didn't mean to imply that apparently being a woman is a science experiment what I was trying to say is that I didn't want to TURN TTC into a science experiment.
I'm not saying that at some point I may or may not chart I was just simply questioning I guess why so many women (let's be honest all of them) on the main GP board chart, take temps, and check cervical mucus on a daily basis that's what I was trying to say. I don't want to turn trying to have a child into a science experiment.
I have to say I agree with Kniblet and Midgette's posts but for the love of all that's is holy you better not post those ideas on the GP board because they'll eat you alive. I have seen SATC (pretty much every episode and both movies) and know what you're talking about with the Charlotte situation and I do feel that if all you're doing is OBSESSING and DYING to have a baby and it's the end all be all of your life then yes you'll probably stress your body out so much that it will make things more complicated and more difficult to conceive.
For pete's sake woman have been having babies for years without all of this charting and temp taking and reading TCOYF books. Hell since I've already been persecuted for what I wrote earlier has anyone ever gotten the thought into their minds that maybe it's more whats in our processed foods and the chemicals that seem to be on our fruits and veggies that could be making having a baby so difficult?
Make a pregnancy ticker
(i'm going to generalize for a moment)
i think it's important to note that women who have the ability to become pregnant on the first cycle are not the ones who are going to message boards looking for TTC support or advice (so you aren't going to see those women for whom "have sex every other day" has worked, because they're already PG). This is part of the sh!t you're catching (and going to continue to dodge if you don't start trying to walk a mile). IF they had the ability to become PG right off the bat, they wouldn't be there. so assuming that YOU don't need their advice because it's too involved(?) probably hits home to them, because they probably felt that optimism, until it didn't work for them. part of being a good community member is understanding the community you're trying to join. just because you dont INTEND to be insulting, doesn't mean that the consequences are any different. Intentions aren't magic, they don't absolve you from causing harm.try to be mindful. planning for the worst and hoping for the best is pretty much the motto that goes with TTC because self-preservation is important, especially if things don't happen the way you plan.
also: i never want to have children, but i still choose my words carefully because frankly, you never know what others are going through.
Let me add: your assumptions aren't medical science. lets try to keep those to a minimum.
Amanda Williams Photography
(and because i can't keep my mouth shut)
i really want to speak on the TCOYF bashing: listen, historically women have been prevented from any kind of concrete understanding about their sexuality, their bodies, and their reproductive health and processes. Women are not given the power of knowledge freely when it comes to their bodies. There are numerous and very complicated cultural issues that I'm not going to get into right now, but i think we all know, and have experienced, the shame that is placed upon women who are mindful of their sexuality, their anatomy, and their desire. The power and autonomy which comes from that knowledge is invaluable. (seriously, in the 1600/1700s midwives were put on trial and tortured because their lady-knowledge was considered witchcraft.)
Take the female orgasm. it's treated as some kind of mythical creature that may or may not exist. seriously? Women who do not experience a vaginal orgasm are made to feel like there is something wrong with them. fact: not everyone has the physical ability to have a vaginal orgasm.
that knowledge is power. it's important. having control and knowledge gives you power. if you are IF, charting will probably not work. But if your intention is to get PG as soon as possible, it may be the key.
Even if TCOYF is annoying, it's important because it signifies a large portion of women empowering themselves with knowledge about their bodies. few things are more important, IMO.
Amanda Williams Photography