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Jake blowing out the candle at Katie's coming home party
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Katie Belle
Kristen, Chad, Jake, Katie & Sadie the Wonderdog, est. 6/17/06
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2nd time moms: is DH staying overnight at the hospital? Also when did your other child come visit?
We've decided that DH will go home during the evenings and overnights to be w/ Jake, in order to keep his life as close to normal as possible (both sets of grandparents will be there as well to watch him and spoil the heck out of him). I'm a little nervous though about being in the hospital alone overnight. I remember being really weepy at night when I had Jake...like I'd be fine all day and then be completely overwhelmed emotionally come midnight. I would sob about how much I loved him, etc. and really needed DH there to listen. I know my mom would be happy to stay over if need be, so at least I have a good backup plan.
How is/did everyone else deal w/ this?? And when did you have your firstborn come visit the baby??
Jake blowing out the candle at Katie's coming home party
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Katie Belle
Kristen, Chad, Jake, Katie & Sadie the Wonderdog, est. 6/17/06
Re: 2nd time moms: is DH staying overnight at the hospital? Also when did your other child come visit?
Eek, I'm not sure!?! I had originally planned that DH would go home at night to be with Luke and the dog/cat. I think he hated sleeping at the hospital last time anyway, but in thinking about being there alone.....
My thought was that Luke would go stay with my parents, or they would stay at my house. Who knows, we actually might be living with my parents at that time.... Hmmm. Sorry, I guess I have no answer for you.
I would probably bring Luke to meet his brother immediately though.
I had DH stay overnight the whole time I was in (2 nights). DS stayed at home, and my IL's came to stay with him. They kept him on his regular routine, and he was in his own bed everynight so that helped him a lot. I couldn't have stayed alone. I needed that support while trying to BF in the middle of the night, and trying to get up and walk around after a c-section. I hated calling the nurses every 5 minutes.
I had DD at 10:40 pm, and the IL's brought DS to visit early the next morning. Something that helped us a lot was our hospital offered a 'siblings class'. It was a couple hours long, and they bring the kids to the hospital to show them where Mommy will be staying, the baby nursery, what the baby will look like, ect. DS was very excited after that class, and he was not scared at all when he came to the hospital to visit, and saw me hooked up to IV's and such. He knew what to expect and that was huge for him. I reccomend looking to see if your hospital has one of these classes. I delivered at EMMC if that helps.
Good luck, Im sure your LO will do great through this transition. It seems a lot scarier than it is.
MH will definitely stay with me. In a moment of what I now think was insanity, I offered for him to go home at nights, but he wants to stay. My parents will be here to stay with Owen, and N's parents will be staying nearby, so Owen will get lots of love and attention. And if there is an Owen emotional crisis, I'm sure my mom would come stay with me one night so that MH could go home...but here's hoping it doesn't come to that. Owen's nuts about my parents, so we should be okay. I think he'll be more freaked out at the hospital visiting -- he doesn't handle my doctor's visits very well when he has to come along. Just the same, we'll probably have him come as soon as possible to meet his sister.
Of course, these decisions were based on our previous experience, which was with a c-section, so I needed a lot of help. I'm pretty pessimistic about this time around, though, and I fully expect another c-section even though I want the VBAC -- which means I'm planning for needing help.