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Venting
I feel like if I don't let this out somewhere I am going to freak out on Mike so feel free to flame away if you don't agree...
It looks like Logan's 1st birthday is going to be a bust. I for the life of me cannot get Mike on board to help me find somewhere to have it and it is in 4 weeks. He's very indifferent about the whole thing and its frustrating the crap out of me. I get that when he grew up birthdays and holidays weren't a big thing but my mom always made sure that we did something special and I love planning things and finding a reason to celebrate birthdays and holidays.
I know that her first birthday isn't something she is going to remember and everyone keeps telling me its just for the adults and that she is going to smile and have fun no matter what we do because that is who she is BUT you know what I don't buy that crap at all.
When I look back on my childhood and see pictures of the things my mom did for me and the memories she created I feel pretty damn special. And I want Logan to be able to do that.
I have been nagging him (yes nagging because asking nicely for 2 weeks didn't work ) to please talk to his building manager(where he rents his studio) about a space and when it does he does do it he does it half-as&ed. Doesn't ask what room they are offering or if we get a better deal because we already tenants, just kinda gets the bare bones information that doesn't help me at all. SO now I get to call the lady and ask and he's all bent out of shape because I want to call her now.
I know this all sounds incredibly stupid. I am just tired of butting heads with him when it comes to celebrating anything. Its like pulling teeth and honestly takes all of the fun out of it. I also know this really isn't worth fighting with him about, but its just kind of the tip of the iceberg lately.
I am not really sure how to tell him to get off his fVcking ipad and be social human being without sounding like an evil witch.
So.. Thanks for reading if you made it this far.... I am going to try and go back to the drawing board and see what I can figure out.
Re: Venting
I'm sorry, Montana.
When I look back on my childhood and see pictures of the things my mom did for me and the memories she created I feel pretty damn special. And I want Logan to be able to do that.
This is a pretty compelling reason to make a fuss over her birthday. If you haven't explained your reasons for him using exactly this wording, I would start there. The key is to pick a time when you're not fired up about it, so that you can stay calm. (Or calm-ish, anyway. I would probably burst into tears while trying to get this out.) If he's obsessing over his ipad, ask him to please stop for a few minutes, because you'd like to talk to him.
And if that doesn't work, grab it from him and smack him over the head.
Good luck!
Montana, First of all I wish we were friends outside of teh webs because I'd give you a HUGE HUG right now
Second of all, I dont know how big the house you're in is.....or how big say either one of your parents is? but have it at home 
get a beautiful cake, pretty decorations (i loved the ladybugs/butterflies idea 
) and either get pizza's or do apps or whatever and beer and soda.
beautiful...tasteful affair that isnt gonna drive you nuts
Honestly, my SIL goes WAY overboard ($400 cakes (i'll PIP his 1st birthday cake later its 3 tier's with a freakin 3d teddy bear on top, 2nd birthday was a 3d thomas that cost abotu as much) decorations that take the immediate family 3 hours to put up, and the first one she had CATERED.....with bartenders and everything....i know you wouldnt go this far but its INSANE)
Logan will love whatever you do, because you're her mother, and you love her.
and yes....tell as$hat to get off the bloody ipad and HELP YOU!!!!!
Love ya and if you need help let me know....
Getting fit for IVF!
Pretty much this, exactly. Even if it ends up being a small affair, she'll still be able to look back at the pictures and know that you did something special for her and she'll love you for it... because you were there, smiling and laughing right along side her. :-)
Ok, and just because I want to make you giggle... this is from my cousin Amy's first birthday. LOL First of all, it was a Burger King, but it's still an awesome memory. Second of all, how awesomely tan and blonde was I??? Third, check out her dad's glasses. HEE!
Amy's 1st Birthday - August 1983 by Tisha_McFluffy, on Flickr
Missing our little turkey.
Estimated Due Date 11/13/12 | Natural Miscarriage 4/17/12
Come to New York! I can reserve the penthouse party room in my building!!
I'm sorry you feel like this--I agree about Logan looking back and wanting her to feel special. . .I know I do when I see all my old photos.
grr to your husband Montana. I am sorry you are getting no support with this. I completely understand where you are coming from. I agree with pp about possibly using your house or your parents.
PS- Hide his ipad until he helps