Vow renewal (non-clicky poll)

vhcoleman09

What do you guys think of vow renewals? What do you consider to be an appropriate time? I never thought I'd want to do this except maybe for a big anniversary like 10 years or 25 years, but honestly, Anthropologie's new foray into wedding gowns has me swooning. Seriously. 5 year renewal, maybe? Is that too soon?

http://www.bhldn.com/the-shop_gowns/_/showAll/0/

kaleyandjason

There are some gorgeous dresses on there. And it would give me an excuse to (hopefully) wear a dress I actually like this time. But, I still think 5 years is a wee bit soon. Maybe at 10 though!

Leigha12

For traditional vow renewals, I personally think it would need to be for a big anniversary, like 25 or 50, or truly when you feel they need to be renewed, perhaps if you separated and then reconciled.  However, DH and I will most likely have to do our vows again (not a renewal in the typical sense) because the local Catholic diocese does not recognize our wedding as a legitimate Catholic one despite that just about every other diocese in the country would consider it legitimate. So we need to redo them before we have kids so that they can be baptized and all that good stuff.

mamie329

Leigha12:

For traditional vow renewals, I personally think it would need to be for a big anniversary, like 25 or 50, or truly when you feel they need to be renewed, perhaps if you separated and then reconciled.  However, DH and I will most likely have to do our vows again (not a renewal in the typical sense) because the local Catholic diocese does not recognize our wedding as a legitimate Catholic one despite that just about every other diocese in the country would consider it legitimate. So we need to redo them before we have kids so that they can be baptized and all that good stuff.

But... but... PRETTY. DRESSES.

!!! 

Leigha12

Haha, Mames, I know! I never actually loved my dress. I just didn't like trying them on because it made my back hurt, so I went with the first one every loved on me.  A couple months ago, I found THE dress. I texted DH and asked if I could get it for the Catholic ceremony. He laughed with me, but didn't go for it.

kaleyandjason

I didn't love my dress either. If I could do it over I would have spent more on it. It wasn't that it wasn't in the budget, I just flipped out when I found one I loved that was only $99. Now looking back at pictures and the dress itself, I feel like it looks super cheap.

vhcoleman09

Leigha12:

the local Catholic diocese does not recognize our wedding as a legitimate Catholic one despite that just about every other diocese in the country would consider it legitimate. So we need to redo them before we have kids so that they can be baptized and all that good stuff.

I must've missed this. Why doesn't your local diocese recognize it?

mamie329

Guessing because it wasn't IN a church? 

Damn Catholics (I am one.)  

SBS0628

mamie329:

Guessing because it wasn't IN a church? 

Damn Catholics (I am one.)  

OMG, you're almost in so much trouble for making me almost spit coffee all over my computer as I laughed when I read this. (Thankfully, no computer was damaged and no coffee was lost. You're in the clear.)

As for the real poll...despite how pretty those dresses are, I think ten years is the earliest it's allowable (despite the fact that I said I wanted to renew this year just so I could get a Vera Wang for David's Bridal gown...). And I really never would have thought ten years was okay until a friend of mine started talking about it. She and her husband were married when they were 19 and 21 at City Hall. They were alone, in a new state, with no family or friends. Since then, they've established a life here, met a lot of people and developed relationships. Like she tells me all the time, if they were to get married now, they'd do it with all their family/friends they've established in the past seven years (that's how long they've been married). So, they're considering doing a big tenth anniversary party/vow renewal, since they never had a big wedding to begin with.

Leigha12

mamie329:

Guessing because it wasn't IN a church? 

Damn Catholics (I am one.)  

Sort of. The Austin diocese won't recognize it because it was outdoors. They don't allow outdoor weddings because their priests are spread too thin to allow them to do ceremonies outside of the church, so they won't grant requests nor do they recognize people's marriages who do it anyways. 

The Texas diocese won't recognize it because it was conducted by a Franciscan friar. For the rest of Texas, in order to recognize an outdoor Catholic ceremony, it has to be done by a deacon. This is a money thing, IMHO. They don't want the money going outside of the church. Most other states' diocese will recognize a ceremony by a Franciscan friar as they are authorized to conduct Catholic rites and ceremonies as long as all of proper procedures for the sacrament of marriage are followed.

angelfire0412

I love the new BHLDN accessories and jewelry as well, gorgeous!