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Do I send a sympathy card?

Dh's grandfather passed away last week and he is flying home for the funeral later this week.  Since I am not attending the funeral, should I send a sympathy card with my personal condolences or does Dh's going speak for both of us?  I have never met either grandparent and Dh is not close to them, so would sending a card to someone I've never met be odd?

Re: Do I send a sympathy card?

  • I"m so sorry for your family's loss. It's never wrong to send a card to let someone know that you are thinking of them during this time.  I'm sure they would appreciate the gesture. 
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  • I'm one of those who doesn't care for the sympathy card. A personal letter of condolance to the IL whose parent dies would be nicer.
  • IMO, it would be your husband's loss as well (even though he is not close to them), so no sympathy card is needed.  I can't imagine, for example, sending a card to my mom if her brother passed - he was my uncle, even if he is "closer" to her.

    If anything, send a personal note and talk about any memories your H had of his grandpa. 

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  • Sending a card is always appropriate. I think its an even nicer gesture from you since you cant make it in person.
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  • I would send a card.  I don't think that would be odd at all.
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  • When my mom passed, I got messages/cards from a couple people I had never met.  It was appreciated.
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  • I am Catholic, and it is pretty standard to mail or bring a Mass Card.
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