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Family drama
I knew there would be family issues being back in Jax (where most of my mom's family is), but I had no clue just how much, and it's really starting to irritate me.
Backstory: a few days after Jonathan was born, my mom was attacked by my cousin's pitt bull pretty badly. She's ok, but still has issues (had to have surgery and is even nervous around her own dog now). Long story short, she and my dad refused to press charges because it was family (trying to keep the peace), but had the police pick the dog up. A few days later, my aunt (her sister) paid the fees to get the dog back to her son. This was after telling my mom at the hospital that the owner "knows what he has to do."
Since then, my mom refuses to talk to my aunt, and my aunt has tried (only once, I informed her that she won't do it again) to put me in the middle. My mom likes to pretend it shouldn't be that big a deal, but is constantly finding ways to bring it up, use it as an excuse not to visit, etc. I usually just don't reply or change the subject. She knows I don't appreciate it.
Before any of this happened, I had offered to do the wedding cakes for said aunt's other two sons, who were both getting married. The first was last October, and afterward my mom decides to tell me that she was hurt I did it. I informed her that I had already offered and wasn't going to back out on them, plus I wasn't getting involved. Now apparently she forgot that I am doing the other wedding too (in April), and someone in the family told her (probably her oldest sister, who is a nosy busybody). I got a one-line email this morning from her (she doesn't do those) asking "Are you in fact doing the cake for B&C's wedding?" and that's it.
She's supposed to drive down to give my sister her vehicle (they're selling it to her), then drive back up with me. She's already tried to use the excuse, "Dad doesn't want me coming down there, can you just meet me halfway?" to which I told her no. So now less than two weeks before I'm supposed to go up to visit, she's going to start more drama.
Re: Family drama
Your mom won't talk to her sister because her nephew is an irresponsible dog owner? That was undoubtedly a traumatizing experience but sounds like everyone is acting rather petty. Sorry you're in the middle.
Yes, they're all acting petty, which is why I'm done with the entire thing. But she won't talk to her sister because said sister bailed the dog out of the pound.
But yeah, that's the short version.
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