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Question About Shiva?
One of my editors passed away yesterday (he was older and had been sick for a few months, so it wasn't unexpected...still sad, but we knew it was coming).
Surprisingly, I've never been to a shiva before. Can anyone tell me what to expect? I presume it's similar to the christian wakes I've been to, except it's in the family's home. But I've heard some varying things about them and I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do. Someone told me you should bring something sweet, like a pastry. Is this true? I don't want to show up with some danish and have them look at me funny if that's not the case...nor do I want to show up empty-handed.
Also, is it like a wake in that you can pop in and pop out, or are you supposed to stay the whole time? I want to pay my respects but not necessarily be there all 4 hours. Hope that doesn't sound callous. I think it would just be awkward. I don't really know the family.
TIA!
Re: Question About Shiva?
Thanks for answering!
Not weird at all about the mirrors, every religion/culture has its things. But I appreciate the head's up. I vaguely remember hearing the mirror thing years ago but had forgotten.