trying not to be upset

Lil Lar

We have friends that are getting married the day before our year anniversary that DH is a groomsmen in. My work is really strict about taking days off b/c there are only 4 of us working there with the doctors and they need at least 3 people there everyday in order to keep things running somewhat smoothly. We were looking at the schedule and I can take 3 days PTO and go home with DH for the wedding, but if I do that, then we will only have 10 days at home with our families for Christmas. Since that is the only time during the year that we can see our families I don't feel like that would be long enough...if I didn't use my PTO days then we could stay home for Christmas for 2 weeks which I feel like would be a little better. Problem is, if I do that then I wouldn't be with DH for our year anniversary...I don't know what to do. It really upsets me because you only get 1st anniversary being married ya know..I don't really want to miss that.  I think I've actually posted on here about this before, so sorry to any of you reading this that this is a repeat...*sigh*  I wish their wedding was a week sooner or a week later

saisongbird

10 days at home with your families is a LONG time.  I know it's the only time you see them, but if it were me, I'd be done after about a week.  I would go with your DH to the wedding and make a little anniversary trip out of it!  Think of it this way - you go to a wedding the day before your anniversary, have a great time, stay at a hotel, have a romantic breakfast with DH on your anniversary and cherish the day together.

kpsHoneyBear

Aw, sorry you're feeling upset   I agree though, you can have a great time at your friend's wedding, reminiscing about your own special day a year before.  You can have a great night, then celebrate by yourselves the next day all day long.  I also think that you will find the 10 days with the family will be long enough once that time comes.  Even with travel time, you will have a little over a week to spend with them and you can do a lot in 1 week! 

ellen73

I agree with the 10 days being plenty of time to spend with your families.  This past holiday season we drove to Cleveland, spent a few days there, drove to Philly, spent a few days there, drove back to Cleveland a few days there, drove back to Chicago (11 days total including the two travel days)... and we were so happy to be back at OUR home by the end. 

ohioloveyou

ellen73:

I agree with the 10 days being plenty of time to spend with your families.  This past holiday season we drove to Cleveland, spent a few days there, drove to Philly, spent a few days there, drove back to Cleveland a few days there, drove back to Chicago (11 days total including the two travel days)... and we were so happy to be back at OUR home by the end. 

This.  I think your fam will appreciate anytime you can spend with them!

lburkey21

Ditto the other girls. I think 10 days at home for the holidays is more than enough time. Plus I think you'll be even more upset about not being with your husband on your 1st anniversary.

JMU_Bride09

I'm sorry you have to make this choice   But I would say that you should do what you need to do to be with your husband for your first anniversary.  You will still get time to see your families at Christmas, and there are plenty more opportunities for family visits in the future.  But you only have one chance for your first anniversary

AndyKit724

definitely go with DH!  10 days will be enough time.   dont miss the once-in-a-lifetime day with your hubby!