Really ready?

MegBuisson

So DH and I have been planning on getting pregnant since October. I stopped taking BC in October and have been regular until this past week when I was 5 days late (I've since started). The thing though is that when I was waiting I suddenly realized that if I was pregnant I didn't want to tell anyone if I was (other than DH). I didn't want to tell our parents or anyone else since no one except DH and I knew we were TTC. Do you think I'm ready for pregnancy or am I just getting cold feet?

casmgn

It's quite normal to wait to tell people you are pg until you are a little further along. That has nothing to do with being ready to be pg.

ArcadianDreams

I'll freely admit this...I'm dreading telling people. Not because I don't think they'll be happy (our parents will be ecstatic), but because I don't want all the attention. I don't like being made a fuss over and that seems to go with the pregnancy territory.

PunkyBooster

casmgn:

It's quite normal to wait to tell people you are pg until you are a little further along. That has nothing to do with being ready to be pg.

This. I was 10 weeks when we told our parents and siblings and 14 weeks before we told anyone else. 

cmh06

We didn't tell most of our family and friends until we were about 9 weeks.  You can wait as long as you want to tell people. 

vjcjenn1

I think you get ready to tell people, then you tell people, then it sets in as reality, and then you get ready for it to happen...probably why a pregnancy is 40 weeks, to give you time to prepare!

margaritagirl

You can wait as long as you want to tell people. I don't think it means that you're not ready.

ChavayJakov

Hon, it is perfectly fine and not an indicator that you are not ready or have cold feet.  There are many people who choose not to share their pregnancies until after the passing of the first trimester.

Allow you and your DH to fully enjoy the intimacy of this WONDERFUL event - right now the 3 of you are encloistered together in this happy, personal period.  If anything, your not wanting to share the news tells me that you are not yet wanting this personal time of just quiet blessing invaded.  

alliejo725

Waiting to tell others is a wise choice, not a reflection of your readiness to be a parent.

I strongly encourage waiting a few weeks before announcing it to the world. I waited until the first trimester was over to tell people outside of our family circle. First I wanted to hear (more than once) from the ob that the pregnancy was stable, that the baby was growing normally, and that I had very little to be worried about.