Horrible Co-Worker News

kelliejo83

I'm not into asking for thoughts & prayers, especially from strangers, but I felt like I needed to tell someone.  We just found out that a co-worker of mine who was due to have a baby girl in about a month or so lost her today. 

I'm not necessarily close with her (we're in different departments, but it's still a relatively small company), but I feel like I should send her something.  Is a card enough?  If not, what would you send?  Should I send anything?  We don't know when she's coming back to work yet.

mandyandmike2009

WOW how awful. I really have no good advice. If it were me I wouldnt want anything, no matter what anyone says it wont make it better. With that being said I know myself and I would send a card most likely.

munkii

Take-out?  She may or may not be taking great care of herself (because she's depressed, she's drained, whatever).  Prepared food would be something that could take a load off and remind her she still has to, at least, eat.

kelnyc

Oh no, I hate hearing stuff like that... especially when she was so far along. 

I think I would send a card and maybe a muffin basket or something else food-related. Cooking is probably the last thing they're thinking about right now.

Milliechel67

That is so hard.  Treat it as you would if she were grieving for any other death.  Some friends of ours lost a baby at 8 months and you WOULD NOT BELIEVE some of the reactions they got.  Their grieving process was different but just as intense as if one of their other close family members had died. 

Cipolla2Be

  That makes me sad.  I would send over a card and bake a lasagna or some kind of casserole that they could heat up/eat over time. 

wittyschaffy

Oh how sad.  I agree - treat it like any other death in the family (if it were me, this would be so much bigger than the death of any other family member though - how awful to get that far along and then lose the baby. Maybe I'm even that much more sensitive to it because my sister is a month away from having her kid).  A sincere card would be appropriate as would maybe sending them pizza one night or something. 

juangela

I can't even imagine...especially since you feel like you are "home free" at that point. Wow. My heart is breaking for her.

A sincere card and a nice, food related gift seems very appropriate.

Witchys_Woman

I agree with the others. I don't think there is a lot that you can say to make them feel better but you can let them know you are thinking of them and sometimes that's all that can be done. I would send along a meal of something if you can. Sometimes homemade food is more comforting then words.

Jkip0705

Cipolla2Be:

  That makes me sad.  I would send over a card and bake a lasagna or some kind of casserole that they could heat up/eat over time. 

I was thinking this too. Lasagna or a soup or something. 

karma007

I can't imagine how awful that must be. There just aren't words.