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:::JayeFay:::
Have you and DH talked anymore about what you posted about the other day?
Just curious!
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Re: :::JayeFay:::
A bit
We're still in a COMPLETE limbo with everything - mainly because there are about a thousand factors on either side of the argument. I have one day of *home* thoughts, and another of *hospital* thoughts. So I'm making pro/con lists (I feel like a five year old!) I've come to terms that it's most definitely not about fear, because I feel completely safe either way. I'm trying to be practical, because even though I say it's not solely about the money, it is a big part of it for me. It's sad, because if it were the other way, and we had not so good coverage, I would be jumping on the home plan without looking back.
There is a big part of me that feels I need to do this first time in hospital, and then go for the home birth the second time... Which I guess is common for those on the fencers like me
So where we are right now - I'm going to see how I feel at our hospital tour. It's a huge decision to make, but I actually feel good that I still have time to make it!
I really appreciate your help, Christina! I have a lot of comfort knowing that I have someone to ask about this, since honestly, the majority of people give me blank stares if I ever mention it...
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Jaye - I feel the same way you do! I'd LOVE a home birth but as a first timer and not knowing what to expect, I feel like the first one should in the hospital and the 2nd and/or 3rd will be at home.
Christina - you're my hero for doing it at home! I'm so envious of that and REALLY hope baby #2 will be born at home!
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Jaye- I totally get it, luckily I had a friend that had a homebirth 11 mo before mine so I went through all of her decision making process with her before that and we did research and so it really helped me make a decision.
Just know that in the hospital you and your DH are going to really have to stand up for yourselves at times (which I'm sure you already know)
know that you can request a different labor nurse if the one you have isn't natural birth friendly etc
My friend who had the homebirth had her first in the hospital as well ( and had her 3rd at home a little over 2 months ago and ended up being an accidental unassisted oh my! Jude came to check in on her and my friend still felt like she was pretty early on and told Jude to go and then blamo not long after out came the baby!) and she told me that she was impressed that I had a homebirth the first time because like you guys she wanted to "know" that she could have a baby vaginally.
I guess I just had faith that I could and knowing that Jude was a great mw and we are only about 5 min from Banner Desert
oh, AND one of the big reasons DH and I decided to go with the homebirth was that I read a statistic ( I forget where) saying that now if you are a 1st time mom you have a 50% chance of c-section (including breech, "big baby diagnosis", elected, induction --> cascade of interventions, and emergency) that was a big factor in choosing a homebirth.
It was the right decision for us but I know it isn't for everyone
It's so hard! I know without a doubt that we'll be comfortable enough to do it the second time...it's just the first time that I'm thinking I might over-analyze everything ... We do plan on labouring at home AS much as possible though if we go with the hospital. So really, my hope is that I'll show up at the hospital, get checked in, tell them to leave me alone (no one ruin my wishful thinking) as much as possible, and have a baby!
Is it weird that one of my biggest reservations about hospital birthing is the no-food/drink rules? Umm yay, I wouldn't run a marathon without fueling, so why would I give birth without it? I've already told DH that we're sneaking food.
This is one of the things that freaks me out. I know way too many people that ended up with a C/S... Luckily we've made sure our OB knows we don't want any elective induction/interventions even discussed with us unless they are medically necessary (and big baby is NOT medically necessary for me). I feel pretty good that I won't be pressured into it, and DH and I have a really good hold on standing our ground. I plan to ask the hospital what their C/S rate is when we go for our tour, fingers crossed that it's not atrocious.
There's just this big part of me that feels like I shouldn't have to stand my ground. I should be able to give birth, like the MILLIONS and MILLIONS of women before me have, without feeling pressure. I walk around our house sometimes thinking about how amazing it would be to have those memories of her being born at home.
Man, I hate being in limbo!
haha if you remember my birth story, I ate breakfast, then threw it up later.
My m/w wanted me to have some juice (which I took a few sips but asked DH to get a bucket just in case) when I got done having some juice I see him get out the peanut butter jar and a spoon, and then I threw up! Haha, and that is when my water broke (and I was at about a 9 then and had no idea)
I like the idea of being able to eat in labor but for me I wanted none of it
Oh and Jaye and Stacy where are you planning on giving birth at?
Do they have water available ( to labor in) do your Dr.'s allow you to push in any position?
Have you thought about positions?
We would be at Arrowhead.
I talked to the OB last visit about the flexibility, and he told me I could do whatever/whenever as long as there is no medical problem with me or the Baby. He suggested using the shower for pain relief as much as I need, and mentioned that I can choose my positions also.
Of course I don't know how it will actually go when I'm in there
But I know when I'm in pain I usually deal much better when I'm able to stand and lean on things vs laying/sitting...so I wonder how that will come into play.
I agree - it's very hard! We plan to labor at home as long as possible also. We can and will do it, Jaye!!!
I'm worried about not being able to eat too and we'll def. be sneaking food in! lol
We'll be at Mercy Gilbert.
They don't have birthing tubs YET but I'm really hoping they will by the time I go into labor. My practice has a new MW and she's from Europe (I think) so she's really into it and is pushing the hospital to allow one. If not, I will be in the shower as much as I can.
I haven't talked to my MW about positions but she's pretty open to everything so I don't think this will be a problem. I have to write up my birth plan and go over it with her soon. TOO many decisions! LOL
Christina - did Lucy have the eye ointment??
Yep and the vit K shot, after research I thought Vit K was very important and eye ointment was fine but we waited I think 2 hours to give it, you may not have that option though.
I'm glad you guys both seem to have good MW's/OB's!
Ok! The vitamin K shot is more important for boys if being circumsized but my Hypnobirthing instructor said to ask if they can give it as drops instead of the shot. Not sure what the difference is though.
I'm happy with my MW too, I love her!!!
yes but God forbid baby might need need surgery (not likely but anything can happen the first few days) and from what I've read/seen the drops aren't as effective and need to be given 3-4x a believe. You may want to see what you can find in the literature.
Those are 2 things that I wasn't concerned about doing because what I read it made sense.....now Hep B...we didn't do that at birth and won't for a good long while
That's what I've heard regarding vit K drops as well. We'll be doing it. Way too many risks to not do that one.