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Depressed yet overjoyed!
Hi guys,
So I got a call at 1am this morning from my BFF who lives in Canada. She told me that she had a baby earlier in the day! She didn't even know she was pregnant!!!!! The healthy baby girl (no name as of yet) is said to be full term. I am very happy for my friend and so thankful that the new little one is healthy. I wish I could be there with her to help get things in order.
The depressed part comes in because DH and I have been trying to get pregnant since the wedding night and have not been successful. My BFF has NEVER wanted children and was blessed with a child that she doesn't necessarily even want. I pray that now that she has a child she will bond with her and be happy this happened.
Sometimes I just question how this is fair? Bill and I want kids more than anything in the world and have not gotten pregnant and she gets pregnant and goes 9 months smoking and drinking without knowing she is pregnant.
Any support would be appreciated and good thoughts for the new baby princess are always welcome too!
Lindsay
Re: Depressed yet overjoyed!
This does seem like a bitter sweet story. I never can figure out how you can go 9 months and not know you are PG. I watch the show on TV all the time and just shake my head in wonderment.
I can also never figure out why there are so many people longing desperately for a child and can't have one and then there are 14 year olds getting pregnant. OR there was the lady in the South the other day who baked her baby in the oven. How does that make sense?
I wish I had an answer for you. If you are religious, I firmly believe that there is a plan for our life which either comes from a higher being or karma in the world.
Stay strong and life will happen!
I totally agree with PP regarding the question of how someone can be preggo and not know! But I suppose it happens, so good thoughts are being sent to your friend and her new little one!
Regarding your feelings, I totally get it! DH and I have been trying since our wedding night, and haven`t been successful yet either. And why is it that EVERYONE around me is getting pregnant, or their wives are pregnant...or for me, even students are pregnant!! Not fair at all, that`s for sure!
However, I am trying to stay focused on the ?dea that everything happens for a reason, and perhaps it just is not the right time just yet for us. So, we keep trying, and I keep crying everytime I realize that I am not..again. Sad, but true. People keep saying not to worry about it, not to obsess about it - easier said than done at times!
I hear ya, and I feel what you are feeling nestie sista! Let`s support eachother!
Interesting. I have a similar story -- a good friend from high school was 7 months pregnant before she found out. Apparently she just thought she was gaining weight. Probably in denial too. It baffles me how some women think they can have unprotected sex and then begin gaining weight without explanation and not think "I'm pregnant". But obviously, as shown in that TLC show, it happens.
I'm sure it sucks having people tell you "everything happens for a reason" right now. So I won't say that. I only pray that 2011 will be your year! A few of my church friends are going through IVF without any success. One friend in particular remains very positive, even when other pregancies are announced because as she says, no one else's pregnancy has anything to do with her own. She still feels sadness though because other pregnancies remind her that she is not.
Not sure if I'm overstepping boundaries stormchaser, but a very dear friend of mine told me she and her husband used this lubricant called Pre-Seed and the Clear Blue Ovulation tests and got pregnant after the 2nd month of trying. She swears by those two products for conceiving.
Do the creep.