Very, very late QOTD - Friday 3/4

LXLX

Stolen from MM again!

When you go out to dinner with your parents, who pays?  What about when it's with parents and grandparents?  With ILs? 

luckyinlove11902

Before we were married my parents almost always paid and would argue with us if we tried. Now that we're married they let us pay more often and we try to pay all the time since we're staying with them. My grandparents don't go out to eat so that's not an issue. If they do my dad pays.

As for ILs, we don't see DH's parents so that's not an issue, but DH's grandma ALWAYS insists on paying when we go out. If we pay for something she'll hide money in our cars, shoes, etc. She's ridiculous but too funny. I adore her. His grandpa just shakes his head and laughs. 

4cats4us

I always pay when we go out to eat with my parents.   I figured they paid for enough of my meals growing up....

jacmdb

With my parents and DH's grandparents they usually pay but if we grab the bill they let us.

I don't think we have ever been out to eat with DH's mom.

We never go out to eat with parents and grandparents at the same time but when I was young my grandfather always paid for dinner.

jodippls

If we go out with MIL she pays pretty much every time. She says she'd rather we spend out money on other things. We usually go out with my mom and stepdad for birthdays so if it's their birthday we treat and vice versa.

ashleemw

Every time with my parents, unless we're specifically taking them out for an occasion, they pay. If it's just my mom and I and we do lunch or starbucks, or we'll swap, but my dad always insists on dinners. 

With ILs, we never go out just because, it's only ever for an occasion. If they say we want to take you out for your bday, they pay. If we take them out for something, we'll pay. The one time we went out just because, when the server said how do you want the check no one answered, so JJ said 2 checks. It was awkward. We usually do dinner at someone's house as FIL doesn't like going out to anywhere but seafood or bbq. 

LXLX

My parents always pay.  If we're with my grandpa, he pays for everyone.  Basically whoever is oldest pays with no exception.  My mom said my grandparents have just always paid for her and her way of repaying is to do it for us.  We'll do the same with any future kids.

M/FIL parents always pay, but his grandparents don't always and we end up doing two checks sometimes because they won't let us pay for the whole thing.  Awkward.  Just let us pay for the Golden Corral tab, GFIL.  lol

duncanpowers

My parents, it depends. If my mom has anything to say about it, we split the check. She is cheap to the point that she'd write IOUs if I asked her to pick me up a pack of gum at the store. When Michael was born and she ran a couple of errands on the way down, she'd write up an elaborate receipt and remind me constantly to pay her back for, say, $4 worth of clothespins. I'm not saying I expect them to pay for things I need, but if I happened to pick up something small she or a friend needed, I wouldn't expect them to pay me back.

ANYWAY. My dad likes to pay. But she typically won't let him. If I ask her, I always pay to prove you can be generous and not in the poorhouse.

My FIL is one of those people that will wrestle you for the check and still insist even if he loses. We pay for MIL because she doesn't have any money.

My grandparents always pay for us and my parents. We always pay for his grandmother.

clseale13

With my family it's usually a pretty even split as to them paying, us paying or everyone paying for themselves. The first 2 options usually result in an argument by the party that's being paid for.

With DH's mom, we usually pay. That being said however, now that she has a better paying steady job again she has tried to pick up the tab here and there as a thank you and she's always very appreciative when we pay for her.

There are no grandparents on either side.

ClaireDunphy

They always pay unless we force them to let us pay.

Soon2BMrsSikes

IL's always pay, no exceptions. With my mom, we usually split the check, but sometimes they will pay for us and sometimes we will pay for them. My dad usually pays, but we have paid once or twice. We never split the check with my dad though. He lives out of state though, so we only see him about once a year.

navybaby1113

Both sets of our parents always pay.  My grandparents also always pay.

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My parents used to pay before their divorce. Now, we just add whichever one is with us to our check. The IL's almost always pay. They get offended if we try to grab the bill.

Kristin&Adam

We go to dinner with my parents a lot and we just split the check. When MIL is visiting we usually pay for her. When my grandparents are here, they pay for everyone.

Lanerbell

When I go out with my mom I try to get the bill every now and then, but she usually grabs it.  My dad always pays for me no matter what.  When we go out with my parents everyone splits.  My granddad never pays for us, but once in a blue moon my Nanny will. 

mon.petit.chou

My parents and his parents always pay when we go out. I think we've only managed to pay once with each of them.

When my grandparents (dad's side) were alive, they always paid for everyone. My other grandparents ALWAYS cooked and we NEVER went out to eat.  

jenhappy

This is a huge issue with my parents and DH. All kinds of hijinx take place when the check arrives, and I generally feel bad for the wait staff.... but we tip well. haha

With the ILs we split the check unless it's someone's birthday..... which it almost always is when we see them.