Sending a bridal shower gift...

DancingLikeTheCrackers17

I have a good friend getting married at the end of April.  Her shower is the first Sunday in April.  We live kind of far away, so I will not be able to make it to the shower, but DH and I are taking a long weekend to go to the wedding. 

So my question is about the shower gift.  I am going to order something off her registry (plus some cute lingerie) to ship to her for her shower, but when do I send it?  Do I send it now, but then she'll either open it early or take it to the shower to open, or do I try to plan it so it arrives a day or two before the shower?  When I got married, I only had one person ship a shower gift to me (DH's cousin who lives out of country), and that arrived about a week before.  I just didn't know how soon was to soon. 

TIA!

Wine Enthusiast

I think as long as she receives it before the shower or within a week later you are good.  I'd go ahead and send it whenever you purchase it.

JennM31

I would just ship it when you get a chance. I got a bunch of out of town gifts and just put them aside and my mom made sure they made it to the shower for me to open.

Mere7706

I would send it whenever. If you want her to open it at the shower, try sending it to her mom or another mutual friend for them to bring it to the shower for you. 

 

amandasw

friends who sent gifts for my shower sent them to friends who were able to make it or to the hostess.  That's what I would do and then it would also be a fun surprise rather.

DancingLikeTheCrackers17

amandasw:

friends who sent gifts for my shower sent them to friends who were able to make it or to the hostess.  That's what I would do and then it would also be a fun surprise rather.

I thought of this, but then I realized most of the people I know who are invited won't be able to make it either.    I guess that's what happens when the bride has lived all over the country (I actually met her when she lived in CA-she went to church with my cousins out there.  She now lives in VA, but was born in TX).

J+E

Mere7706:

I would send it whenever. If you want her to open it at the shower, try sending it to her mom or another mutual friend for them to bring it to the shower for you. 

 

 

I just went to a baby shower and a bunch of people did this by sending the gifts to the grandmothers. It worked fine. Personally though, I just send them to the recipient. I felt bad for the mom who the shower was hosted for because she lives in a different town and had to cart all that extra stuff home.FWIW- When I received shower or wedding gifts early, I opened them so I could get a thank you card in the mail asap. Much less to do later on, and I heard through the grapevine that people were very appreciative of receiving the TY so soon after it was sent, since they didn't have the item delivered to them, they knew it arrived and was correct.

amandasw

kellslw:

amandasw:

friends who sent gifts for my shower sent them to friends who were able to make it or to the hostess.  That's what I would do and then it would also be a fun surprise rather.

I thought of this, but then I realized most of the people I know who are invited won't be able to make it either.    I guess that's what happens when the bride has lived all over the country (I actually met her when she lived in CA-she went to church with my cousins out there.  She now lives in VA, but was born in TX).

You could send it to the host - even if you don't know them.  Since you'll probably call to RSVP anyway, you could ask if that's ok (this would also avoid what PP mentioned about other people trying to cart your gift to the party).  You don't have to though, just a thought.