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Some advice re: family drama
For those who remember my drama from my mom canceling her trip down and my trip up to visit, I need some input.
I know I said I'd take a few days to calm down before responding to her last email (in which she accused me of being "disloyal" and that I'd act differently if it was my baby sisters who were bit and not her), but I've still not responded because I'm still pissed. I just can't get over some of the things she said, and while I'm trying to be the better person, I just don't feel that it will make a difference, as this same thing has played out frequently in the past.
Unfortunately she's not the type you can reason with, as once she has her mind made up about something, nothing will change it. However, I'm not about to let it go, if merely so my boys don't take the brunt of it and not get to see/talk to their aunts.
What would you do?
Re: Some advice re: family drama
What was the situation in a nutshell?
Sorry, I can't remember what I had for dinner last night let alone all of the threads here!
No prob. Basically, I'm doing the wedding cake for a family member, and she's mad because she thinks I should've backed out because their brother's dog attacked her last year (when she was here visiting for Jonathan's birth), and she's feuding with her sister about it. She says I'm being disloyal, and totally canceled a trip I had planned to go up there to visit, making me miss my best friend's wedding (she's then moving out of the country, so a big deal), and trying to "punish" me.
Here are the original threads if you want more:
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She sent another email after all this, which basically confirmed everything I read into what she was doing.
"My 101 List - Updating asap, I swear!
I'm still a little fuzzy on the details with the trips and all but my response would be something like:
Mom, I'm sorry your feelings are hurt over my decisions. My feelings are that I choose to be loyal and have relationships with ALL of my family including those individuals which you are having a personal issue with that does not involve me. I don't want my children to miss out on spending time with anyone in the family including you so I am willing to put our differences aside.
That is of course, assuming you would like to work things out peacefully.
I'm confused. How did your mom cancel the trip? And why does that mean you have to miss your friend's wedding?
That aside, Britt's email sounds great IMO.