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DH's car and your car
Dh got a "new" car (bought used, but new to us) in December.
I'm still driving my 8 year old car that I brought into the marriage. Runs fine and it's paid off. No need to get rid of it.
Everyone always asks me why I am not driving the new car and DH drives my car.
Um... he was driving a 14 year old P.O.S. and deserves to drive a nicer car. We had no intentions of him driving that POS this many years post-college. I am OKAY with him driving the new car. DH lets me drive it on days he works from home and whenever we go on road trips or errands around town (although I like being the chauffered... call me old fashioned).
My parents are weird in that my mom always got the new car (longer commute to work) and dad got the older car. Never had 2 car payments at one time. By the time one car was paid off, the older car was about ready to die and a newer car came about. Always kept cars for about 10 years on average.
What sort of arrangement do you have with the cars?
Re: DH's car and your car
Our situation makes our arrangements pretty simple. I'm a SAHM with 2 kids and one on the way. I need a larger vehicle. I drive a 2006 Grand Caravan. DH has a 2005 Impala. Basically, we aren't going to be in a position to have DH drive my old car or vice versa.
However, DH's car used to be my car. He started driving it in 2008 when his 1996 Taurus blew up in our driveway. We knew we'd be having kids very soon (DD was born in Aug 2009) so we went ahead and got the minivan.
He'll drive his Impala until it's dead. I probably won't drive mine until it's dead, but when it stats showing signs of going downhill, we'll replace it. Right now we're just enjoying life with no car payments.
That is really odd - is it "normal" for the wife to get the new car or what?
We don't really have a system, we just get new cars when we need them. I replaced my 8 year old car in 2008, and I since totaled it in an accident and got another new car.
DH had a beater which was also replaced in 2008 because it was on its last legs and he drives a lot for work. He put a ton of miles on the new (used) car so we sold it this past fall and bought him a brand new Altima. This was unfortunately the month before my car got totaled so I got a brand new Jeep a month later.
I'm hoping my car lasts 10+ years, DH's probably won't last as long because he drives a lot more. When his wears out he'll get the new car, when mine wears out I'll get the new car.
We definitely have a his car/hers car thing going on though - there is no way we will be switching cars in the future. We each get what we want and drive only that.
Coming into our marriage, we had DH's 2008 Chevy Malibu (bought a month before our wedding) and my 1996 Mercury Mystique (purchased in 2002). We just paid off the Chevy and currently have NO car payments (hooray!). Several months ago, we decided that DH would drive my POS mercury and I would drive the Chevy. I'm really not sure why.
We are considering purchasing a mid-size SUV before the baby gets here, but we'll see.