I want another baby

carlyaw

There I said it. I have been telling people and myself that I am done but secretly I really don't feel that way.  I don't want one tomorrow or even in a year (or two) but I want another child.  Most people assume we are done because we have a boy and a girl but I feel like someone is still missing. And watching the relationship between Liam and Grace makes me want it even more, I absolutely melt watching them love each other it is better than I ever thought it would be ?

On the other side Bill is happy and content with the two we have but I just can't shake this feeling that I want one more.  I also know if it never happens that I am still SO blessed and happy with our two beautiful, healthy babies......Totally crazy and this post really has no point but I just needed to get that off my chest.  Thanks for listening

mrscjwatts

You know when you are done.  Just like you know your husband is THE ONE, and your wedding dress is the right one.  Just that gut feeling.

I know how you feel.  When Taylor was smaller, I didn't feel done.  I still don't feel done.  We'll see after the second how I feel, but I completely understand.

Your kids are so cute though!

maeghan21

I saw your post the other day on FB about them loving each other and I smiled. I remember your post asking if they were ever going to. You'll know, when you get there. Your hubby will too. Right now everything is so new with Liam so he's content and happy. You are right though, you have some beautiful kiddos there!

MrsSweetpeaMagee

I do too... I have to fight the urge every month to not say to Josh, why don't I just stop taking the pill and see where it gets us.. but I know we are not in the right place right now for a third, so I will just continue to wait... I think I shocked MIL the other day because we were out and I saw a snap-n-go stroller and I said "next time, that is what I am getting"... she was like, next time?  yeah eventually... lol!

kristen80

This is so funny because I was just going to post a question and see who was thinking of a third!!  I'm 99.99999% sure we're done (I don't handle pregnancy and childbirth well!) but if it weren't for that, I'd be way more open to a 3rd.  Jake is already so sweet w/ Katie and she fit right into our family like she belonged from day 1.  I do have the feeling though that our family is complete, and if we were to have a 3rd it would definitely be a big oops since I plan on getting the Paraguard in a few weeks!

tripin

I think its normal. I know that I'm not done and my second kid isn't even out yet. I just know that I have at least one more in me. DH wants another, but is also saying, lets take a much longer break until the next one. As much as that sounds good.... I also know that I don't want to be a possible incubator forever, so baby 3 will most likely have to happen sooner than later.

KatieLG04

I want another one and I get depressed that we may not have another one.  I secretly hope the decision gets made for us if you know what I mean although I wouldn't intentionally do that.

meganmarieCA

I always thought we'd have three; MH always thought two.  I get sad thinking I'll never be pregnant again or never have a newborn again, and I like the idea of three siblings, especially as adults.  But now that we're in the thick of two, I'm questioning it.  It's a lot of work, and I don't know if MH is up to it, to be honest.  And the daycare costs are crazy.

At the very least, I think we'd try and space a third a little further than the 23 months between these guys.  Not much further, considering my age, but a little. 

cdg0819

KatieLG04:

I want another one and I get depressed that we may not have another one.  I secretly hope the decision gets made for us if you know what I mean although I wouldn't intentionally do that.

So glad this topic came up! I know 100% that I want another, but Ryan is so overwhelmed with Felix and with trying to make sure we can take care of him that another is not in his mind right now. I hate that. I know we are so lucky that I even got pregnant in the first place, but now that I know it can happen, I want another!

I try not to pray that Ryan will book something "big," because I really don't want to be a person that thinks so much about money -- but I know more financial stability (aka more savings and the ability to buy a house) will be the only way Ryan will go for it. 

 

Mainer-in-Texas

I love hearing these stories from moms of 2+ about how wonderful it is to see your kids together. I have always wanted another and knew I'd feel a void if we stopped at one, but one and done made more logical sense - financially and sanity-wise! (We could afford another, we just wouldn't be able to take as many vacations as we'd like). I'm terrified of having another colicky baby, but I've decided this is one of those times in my life that I am going to just hold my breath and jump in!

SBTibbs

Mainer-in-Texas:

I love hearing these stories from moms of 2+ about how wonderful it is to see your kids together. I have always wanted another and knew I'd feel a void if we stopped at one, but one and done made more logical sense - financially and sanity-wise! (We could afford another, we just wouldn't be able to take as many vacations as we'd like). I'm terrified of having another colicky baby, but I've decided this is one of those times in my life that I am going to just hold my breath and jump in!

Same here! As we near the time when we plan to start TTC #2 I am developing all of these new worries and concerns. We both we want 2 so we'll go for it, see what happens and figure it out as it comes! Hearing stories of those of you with 2 doing well and wanting more is great!

shuga_23

This post made my heart swell. I love that you, "feel like someone is missing." That is instict and fate my friend!!

I totally want more but Seth doesn't. I love being a mom.

mjellison81

I haven't even had #1 yet, and I already know we'll have at least two kids, as that's what we've always talked about. It's weird, but I've always seen us with three (DH is one of three, his mother is one of three, his father is one of three, his aunt has three, long line of it), which horrifies my mother, because in her eyes you should "never let them out-number you!", which I think is hilarious. Guess  we'll just have to wait and see!

lauram730

mjellison81:

I haven't even had #1 yet, and I already know we'll have at least two kids, as that's what we've always talked about. It's weird, but I've always seen us with three (DH is one of three, his mother is one of three, his father is one of three, his aunt has three, long line of it), which horrifies my mother, because in her eyes you should "never let them out-number you!", which I think is hilarious. Guess  we'll just have to wait and see!

 

This is so funny because it is definitely my opinion (and MH, thankfully) and we haven't even had a first yet! 

We are at that place where we're getting older and it's becoming more of a real decision, which is scary.  We've been together for so long and have gone through so many phases of we want kids/we don't want kids and I'm finally in a place emotionally where I feel like it's no longer an option, it's just a matter of when.  Unfortunately, H just found out he wasn't selected for a job he has been in the middle of interviewing for this morning, so clearly, we'll be waiting for now.  I'm just starting to feel old and I'm worried about waiting too long in case it doesn't just "happen" for us.

But I second the feeling that it's so nice to see so many of you here saying that you just know something is missing - it is so sweet.  It's also nice to see Maine babies are so darn cute - must be something in the water here 

lauram730

mjellison81:

I haven't even had #1 yet, and I already know we'll have at least two kids, as that's what we've always talked about. It's weird, but I've always seen us with three (DH is one of three, his mother is one of three, his father is one of three, his aunt has three, long line of it), which horrifies my mother, because in her eyes you should "never let them out-number you!", which I think is hilarious. Guess  we'll just have to wait and see!

 

This is so funny because it is definitely my opinion (and MH, thankfully) and we haven't even had a first yet! 

We are at that place where we're getting older and it's becoming more of a real decision, which is scary.  We've been together for so long and have gone through so many phases of we want kids/we don't want kids and I'm finally in a place emotionally where I feel like it's no longer an option, it's just a matter of when.  Unfortunately, H just found out he wasn't selected for a job he has been in the middle of interviewing for this morning, so clearly, we'll be waiting for now.  I'm just starting to feel old and I'm worried about waiting too long in case it doesn't just "happen" for us.

But I second the feeling that it's so nice to see so many of you here saying that you just know something is missing - it is so sweet.  It's also nice to see Maine babies are so darn cute - must be something in the water here 

jgreg29

We are both staunchly in the we want 2 camp.  My parents found an interesting compromise - mom absolutely wanted 3 and dad firmly believed in not having more than 2 for philosophical/environmental beliefs.  They decided that, after my sister, when my sister was 2 & 3 they wouldn't prevent but wouldn't actively try either and let fate make the decision.  We stayed a family of 4 but I think the compromise gave both of my parents peace of mind.

kclouts

Well Carly, you and Bill do make some beautiful babies!