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meganmarieCA

Owen is usually very sweet and agreeable, but lately he has been biting.  Not out of malice, but as a game to get a reaction.  I know that if I didn't react, the behavior would probably go away, but it really hurts and I want it to STOP.  Suggestions????

MA&CB

Maybe just firmly telling him "No biting!" and then walking away?  That way you are letting him know it's not alright, but also not giving him a huge reaction and taking attention away from him when he does it. 

kristen80

Ugggh Jake went through a horrific biting phase (he would actually bite my butt of all places, and usually while I was cooking).  It was totally attention-seeking behavior too, and I tried reasoning forever but it didn't work.  Eventually, I told him that if he bit me, he'd go straight to time-out (his crib).  It only took about a day or two of hard-core time-outing to stop the biting!  I hope Owen stops soon too - it's infuriating and hurts so much  (.

meganmarieCA

One of our issues is that Owen almost seems to ENJOY time out!  We've yet to come up with a punishment for him that deters his behavior.

 

MrsSweetpeaMagee

MM, I am with you, I have tried everything... Jack bites Keaghan out of frustration (which I am hoping will improve now that they are getting speech services) but Keaghan will bite my toes or my fingers if I am not paying him enough attention... and I know it is for attention because he has a sh!t-eating grin on his face the whole time, and it feels different if you know what I mean... I also can't find a "time-out" or consequence that has any influence on him.

meganmarieCA

Mrs.SweetpeaMagee:

and I know it is for attention because he has a sh!t-eating grin on his face the whole time, and it feels different if you know what I mean... 

Exactly!  He thinks it's a game, and thinks it's hilarious when I try to get him to stop.  A lot of times it happens when I'm holding Ellie, too, so I can't move quickly away and wind up trying to stop him with one hand -- which makes it extra-funny to him.  Soooo frustrating!

 

grahamsm3

Not much to tell you that you don't know, I hope he stops soon.

Telling him 'ouch biting hurts' or 'no biting' when he does it - calm and firm - not over reacting, not under reacting

When he is not doing it try reading No Biting or Teeth Are Not for Biting

http://www.amazon.com/No-Biting-Karen-Katz/dp/044842584X

http://www.amazon.com/Teeth-Are-Biting-2003-publication/dp/B001SDAC4C/ref=sr_1_12?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1300145071&sr=1-12

or maybe write him a social story that targets his reason for biting - needs work to be developmentally appropriate, but something like this with simple pictures - real photos of him and you if possible

I like to play with Mommy.

Mommy likes to play with me.

Sometimes Mommy can play with me and sometimes she can't.

I am happy when Mommy can play.

When Mommy can't play I have to wait.

I can play with my toys while I wait.

Mommy doesn't like to play with me when I bite.

I will not bite anyone.

other social stories about biting to give you more ideas - 

http://www.boardmakershare.com/Activity/62857/no-biting-social-story/

http://www.do2learn.com/makeaschedule/helpdocs/sampleSchedules/notRightToBite.htm

 

 

kclouts

meganmarieCA:

One of our issues is that Owen almost seems to ENJOY time out!  We've yet to come up with a punishment for him that deters his behavior.

 

Ridley sometimes ASKS to go into time out.  That route isn't going to work for us either!