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birthday blues
I hate feeling this way-- I am not dreading turning 30, I'm looking forward to it. Every year, I get really down around my birthday. DH and I don't have a group of friends that we hang out with. I have my friends and he has his. We have a few couples that we've gone out with as well. DH invited everyone to join us for a dinner this coming weekend but only my family responded.
I know I have good friends but they are from different points throughout my life. Two of my closest friends and I are hoping to do a weekend trip at some point for all our 30ths so I'm excited about that... but I just feel weird about celebrating my 30th with my family and not having it be with friends.
I really have been trying to be positive about it got to me today! Grrr!
Re: birthday blues
Happy Birthday!!!!!! That's a reason to celebrate!
Forming lasting and quality friendships is super hard I think for most of us at this point in our lives. Everyone's at different points. I wish it were easier :-(
This!
I hope you have a wonderful birthday!!!
Happy Birthday Lovely!
I understand where you're coming from- DH and I move every 3 or so years for his job with NOAA, and it always seems to coincide with "birthday season" (our birthdays are a day apart in October), so we spend most of them just the two of us. While this is nice, much like you I had a certain picture in my head of how my 30th would be this coming year, and unfortunately it's really not going to work out that way.
I think Jess pretty much hit the nail on the head, and hopefully you have an awesome time with your family and DH celebrating- just think, for your 31st, you'll be chasing a new little moppet around!
The aim of life is to live, and to live means to be aware; joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware. -Henry Miller
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This is totally a natural feeling. I threw my hubs a surprise 30th and everyone of his close friends came and it was great, he was sooo happy. He threw me a surprise 30th and almost none of my closest friends came. It was almost all family and a few friends that I was soo psyched to have come, and now I am closer to, but were "new" friends. Literally, my best friends all had an excuse like, uhhh I just didn't have the gas money. I just wasn't feeling up to driving. Or some said they were coming and just didn't. I was newly pregnant (so hormonal) and did let it bum me out a bit, but then I got over it.
In all, I was thinking this morning that my 30's have been great so far. It's only been 5 months, but I really just have a new attitude on life. I think you will love your 30's. And having a kid helps make them fantastic. I just don't give a crap about trivial things and I am on survival mode, which has actually made me enjoy what I've got and be more of me than I've ever been.
::huge hugs:: big Happy Birthday wishes!!!
THIS.
I totally understand where you're coming from! Since we've moved to Boston, I've made a couple of mommy friends, but that's the extent of it -- we mostly communicate on FB, and don't really see each other often, and if we do, it's for playdates -- which have diminished now that we're not all brand-new freaked-out moms. We've also gotten closer with some friends of my sister's, but again, we're not super-close, and we don't see them often. All of our good good friends are in other states. Thank goodness my sister and her husband live here, or we'd be totally isolated.
My solution last year was to plan a different kind of birthday for myself. My folks came up to watch Owen and MH and I got a hotel room downtown. We went to a BU hockey game, stopped at the store for wine and food for a hotel room picnic, hung out in the pool/hot tub, and just enjoyed the hotel and the alone time. This year, of course, I had a baby for my birthday, but next year I plan on doing something like last year. If I can't have a big party or even a friend-filled dinner, I'm going to indulge myself instead.