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How do you feel about adult birthday parties?
I am not talking about milestone birthdays. I mean for every 31, 32, 33, 34 blah blah blah having a big birthday party for your SO. DH's friend's wife (I am sure you can tell from my tone I am not a fan) has a birthday party for her H every year! I feel like it is so gift grabby, and i find it odd. For DH I did throw a big barbecue for his 30th. Usually we go out for dinner the two of us for birthdays, and DH's mom insists on making him a special dinner at her house with cake.
Re: How do you feel about adult birthday parties?
Inviting people to meet up for drinks/dinner/whatever is fine, but I think that a full-on birthday party, where they invite you over and expect a gift, is pretty ridiculous for a non-milestone birthday. I know someone who throws herself a birthday party (or badgers others into throwing it, anyway), every year, and I just roll my eyes.
But then again, I am anti-social and barely acknowledge my own birthday (though I spoil the heck out of my husband for his).
We and our group of friends have always had birthday celebrations every year. Usually that means dinner somewhere and we'll all chip in for the birthday person's meal and afterwards, when we were younger, we'd usually hit a club. No actual presents were ever expected though, that's just weird.
Now we're more likely to just have people over for a meal/finger foods and hang out for a day/evening.
Same here. I'm all for parties, milestone birthday or not!
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Do they ask for gifts? Expect them? do people bring them?
I need more details so I can judge them accordingly.
updated 10.03.12
haha, yes - if the gifts are brought just because people wanted to bring something, then you can't really do anything about it. But if they ask or expect them, then they're totally getting the side-eye from me.
They don't "ask" for gifts, but they also don't put "please no gifts" on the evites. People for sure bring gifts. Their parties are just lame. Like last year there were 25 or so people there, and the wife ordered 4 pizzas. That was ALL they had for food. They also didn't have any cocktails at all...like some people brought their own stuff...like their friends, but not ours. They just had one bottle of coke, and some plastic cups.
In our group whomever is hosting always has beer/wine on hand, and usually a cocktail or punch. Then of course some people bring something specific if that is what they want to drink.
I really have sort of a sour attitude about this couple. For example they got married last year, and used one of those websites where you give money for shower presents. It was to go to their honeymoon costs....which I know they had already paid for...so basically asking people to reimburse them for their honeymoon. I just thought it was so tacky.
1. That isn't a party. That's a BYOB football game.
2. HM registries do not sit well with me. I find them quite crass myself. I have never heard of a website where you give money as shower gifts. That would appall me. Actually last year I was invited to a shower for a HS friend and her mother, sister, and BFF hosted it and asked for "cash for the "pot o' greens" they were presenting to her. It got a big WTF from me.
This registry was one they created on some "wishing well" or something like that site. So they actually put in like "airfare $2000. want 10 gifts x $200" It was so tacky to me.
DH thinks I find too many things tacky, but stuff like that really irks me. It is rude to ask for money, and I don't understand why anyone would think it is acceptable.
I'm sorry I just choked on my soda. Are you for real?
I have seen brides "do" HM registries yet I have never looked at one because I wouldn't bother contributing to it. I'll stick with dishes and stemware, thank you!
Ha ha ha. I know. It is awful isn't it? I couldn't believe it myself.
They sound Tacky with a capital T. I'm totally giving them the side eye right now.
I know multiple people who are doing HM registries, and I just think it's ridiculously tacky. Especially the way it's listed out like that. One of them had couples massages listed, and I almost threw up. No one wants to picture that!
And if you're going to invite people over to your house, at least have enough food! Jeez. I probably wouldn't bring an actual present, but I'd bring a bottle of wine or something, since I have a really difficult time showing up anywhere I've been invited without something. I may be anti-social, but I'm not rude.
I tried to find a status update from a girl i went to college with....it was about having a jack and jill to help with wedding costs...and that wedding GIFTS would be acceptable at the wedding, not at the shower....
THANK THE LORD im not invited to this tacky shitfest
*judgey mc judge judge*
Getting fit for IVF!