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To the ladies of the Coop
I'm sorry, but this is apparently the only way that I can be heard. ?I have attempted to deal with this with Micaela directly and I am now being ignored it seems. ?I simply want to set the record straight.
I came home on Wednesday and attempted to log in. ?I had it set up to remember me but it told me I needed to log in. ?I tried and the page wouldn't let me on and said to contact the administrator. ? I logged in to my email and I am greeted by a very cryptic message from Micaela, stating that I have been banned for breaking the rules. ?Still not knowing what the hell she was talking about, I emailed her back and was informed that no reason would be given for my banning, that she had no details to offer me at this time. ?I again wrote her back and have since been ignored.
I NEVER disclosed anything regarding the board; the location, the members, the topics discussed, NOTHING. ?I never attacked anyone over there. ?Yes, I do participate on the other board as well in addition to the Nest, but many girls will attest that I never once crossed the two (or three, including the Nest). ?I worked extremely hard to keep the boards separate but still maintain the friendships that I had originally formed on the Nest. ?Now that will not be possible.
Furthermore, I haven't even been around lately to get myself in "trouble" because I am completely crazy at work for the last MONTH and just found out within the last few days we are moving, TODAY.?
I just wanted you all to know that I have done nothing wrong. ?I don't know what you have been told. ?I just wanted to get the truth out. ?I am hurt and confused by the goings-on of this week. ?I will still be posting on here and many of you have my email, as well as my myspace or facebook, if you would like to stay in contact. ?If you would like my email, here it is. ?jwuchica2005 at yahoo dot com. ?Feel free to contact me. ??
Re: To the ladies of the Coop
I'm sorry. I understand your motivations for posting here but I think it is inappropriate to do so. I also think that you are doing yourself a disservice by revealing that you are (were?) a member of the other board, at least IMO.
As far as I am concerned, at least, these boards are best kept separate. I'm sorry you are dealing with this situation, though.
Very well put, Sarah. I know some people are not going to like that you posted this here, but you have every right to explain yourself and if certain people are going to ignore you, then your other friends should know what happened. Especially if you keep in contact with some through one of the sites only.
I will back you up in saying that you have never (to my knowledge) said anything about any of the sites, so i dont know what happened. You are a great person and deserve to be treated as such!
We love you Sarah!!
Sarah, I should clarify. I'm not attempting to slap your hand or anything like that, so please don't think that way. It is not up to me to moderate content of posts and insist on separation of "coop and nest" (ah, i'm so clever on one cup of half caf) or anything like that. Just stating my opinion.
IMO (not knowing any of the details or wanting to, really), you are probably best just leaving it alone. The bigger question becomes, would you really WANT to post there after being treated like this? At this point, does it even matter? I just don't think it is worth your time or the drama it may potentially create here. There are still a lot of hurt feelings from the ladies that have NOT been invited to post on this other board (apparently the Coop- that's cute) and I just feel like it dredges up those feelings...not that that was your intent.
Sigh. I just really wish this whole thing (not just your post, the whole dual board crap) would just go away or be a secret again. I think it's easier on everyone involved, but I guess I am just too idealistic or sensitive? Meh.
ahhhh ... got it. So there is a real "exclusive" board out there. Huh. Sounds very mature. I wish I was part of it.
PS In no way attempting to create drama ... not interested, and I'm sure no one else is either. HOWever, it's outrageous to me that a silly board like "The Coop" exists, that only CERTAIN PEOPLE have been "invited" to join (they're clearly far more upstanding citizens than any of us not invited), and that it can affect people's feelings the way it has ... Sarah, I'm sorry that happened to you ... it sounds like that board is just STUPID, frankly, for lack of a better word, although I think that word nicely sums it up. I think it speaks volumes about the couth of THE COOP that you were essentially kicked out. "Kindness" clearly comes in a variety of forms. I'm disgusted.
Sarah- I'm really sorry that happened to you. It sounds like things aren't so nice over there right now.
I miss some of the ladies who used to be here.... but I guess they are happier on their own board. I liked hearing about all the babies, amazing house projects, and just every day stuff. I sometimes feel like I don't belong here, not being married sometimes means certain polls just don't apply to me and that's ok. I appreciate all the advice and information I can get from you guys. I have become friends outside of the nest with some of the ladies, and I think it is an amazing resource most of the time. I just feel like we are missing a lot of knowledge by some of the girls leaving.
Having a private board is their own choice, but it feels a little bit like a high school clique. I like being around here, and I hope we can get the board to pick up a little bit. Let's not focus on what isn't, we still have plenty of great girls here!
cayla, i agree w/ you. focus on what this board is and not what it was. i dont really feel like a contributing member of the board anymore since i dont post very much but its nice that when i do come here, it appears that im still welcomed to be here. it scared me, what happened with all that drama a few months ago, because it got way too personal with someone i barely know and i didnt care very much for that. so in that i can definitely see why a new board would be started ... and i dont care that there is another board.
but i will say that it makes me feel *something* to learn it does exist .... i really didnt think it did and now that i know it does and who is running it, i'm disappointed and a little shocked ... i thought highly of micaela and now im questioning that opinion i had. but .... big sigh ... whatever.
You're right Ann!! All this does is drudge up bad feelings from the past and I have to say that I like the board lately ... it feels safe and friendly and isn't that what we all want?
Oh the drama. I just wanted to write something since so many people have viewed this thread!
I'm sorry that you're feeling outed, Sarah. I hope this move is a good one for you- I know you were having some landlord issues before
It's unfortunate that people have to be secretive about posting somewhere other than the nest.
High School, College, Pre-school etc..., people broke off into groups of friends easily who had similar likes and interests and bonds.....and if someone wasn't invited from a group to an event or discussion that wasn't one of their friends no one even thought anything of it.
I figure if people don't like me or want me around, then I don't really care to be involved with them anyway, plus, I don't have to see their meanish comments.
Why does the internet world make it matter so much more?