Ugghhhh (vent) *Updated*

KSMILEY 77

I will have to make this short because Margot just went down for a nap and I need to run to the mall to get a wedding gift (way easier when she is asleep!). 

So, MIL is coming to my house for 2 weeks starting Sunday and DH leaves on Monday for 10 days in China! I was supposed to meet my sister and nephew at my Moms next weekend because my sister has not seen the baby yet either, but now I won't be able to go. Oh, and she is bringing her dog, who pees all over my house. We have to use our sky miles to fly her here. Have I told you that we have like nothing in common?! And the best of all is that she smokes. I already told DH that he is going to have to tell her very firmly that she can't hold the baby after smoking until she washes her hands and changes. I really don't want to have to remind her of this alone. I'm so beyond irritated by all of this! This is going to be the longest 2 weeks of my life! FML!  

EDIT: and I found all of this out yesterday when I was already having a rough day and then the night got even worse... I'll tell you about that later.  

OSUWifey09

You need a hug. A really, really big hug. I hope you make it through and that the time flies!

aligator423uf

Well that's piss poor timing if I ever did see it. Who planned her visit dates?

mlveynar

Woah, wait a sec.  Your MIL is coming when your DH won't even be there?  That's lame.  I'm sorry for you. 

alyssa44

Oh Kristen I feel your pain on the smoking situation.  My MIL is a very heavy smoker as well.  It's a really sensitive subject too.

You are a saint for having her come visit while DH is gone.  I myself would be checking into a hotel myself if I had to deal with that.

And gross with the peeing dog.  I won't let SIL bring her dog to my house because her dog pees (on my husband may I add), is crazy and would scratch the heck out of my hardwood floors.

You may want to consider FFing Margot and take up drinking just for next week.

Arctic_Seal

UGH.  That's it.  Just UGH.

doxgirl

Ugh.  I hope that it goes by quickly for you.

iheartcutepuppies

mlveynar:

Woah, wait a sec.  Your MIL is coming when your DH won't even be there?  That's lame.  I'm sorry for you. 

Ditto this.

Kristen...ugh..I feel awful for you. I really hope the time flies. You deserve a sainthood or medal or something...Oh Oh I know...when YH gets back you get a spa day.

LarissaAnn

Why on earth is your MIL coming when he'll be away?! And how did you "just find out"? Who decided this? I'd be telling her sorry, but it won't work. I have plans.

ashleymvee

LarissaAnn:

Why on earth is your MIL coming when he'll be away?! And how did you "just find out"? Who decided this? I'd be telling her sorry, but it won't work. I have plans.

I agree...screw that!!  Who comes to visit their grandkid when their own son won't even be in town!?  That is the strangest part of this whole thing!

burkems

ashleymvee:

LarissaAnn:

Why on earth is your MIL coming when he'll be away?! And how did you "just find out"? Who decided this? I'd be telling her sorry, but it won't work. I have plans.

I agree...screw that!!  Who comes to visit their grandkid when their own son won't even be in town!?  That is the strangest part of this whole thing!

Agreed. Isn't your MIL BSC? I would be throwing a freaking fit!!!

LarissaAnn

I think the strangest part is that the decision was apparently made without her, making plans for her that she doesn't want, and ignoring plans she already had.

burkems

LarissaAnn:

I think the strangest part is that the decision was apparently made without her, making plans for her that she doesn't want, and ignoring plans she already had.

Yes, totally. And when I say I would be throwing a fit I mean a straight up, four year old temper tantrum.

LarissaAnn

burkems:

LarissaAnn:

I think the strangest part is that the decision was apparently made without her, making plans for her that she doesn't want, and ignoring plans she already had.

Yes, totally. And when I say I would be throwing a fit I mean a straight up, four year old temper tantrum.

Oh, Eric would be hearing from me if he tried this. Firmly and loudly. And it wouldn't end up happening. Luckily he knows I'd kick his ass if he tried anything of the sort. Then again, he'd kick mine if the roles were reversed too.

LarissaAnn

The closest we've ever gotten to anything resembling this was when his brother was fighting with his baby mama/fiancee (found out the b!tch was cheating) and she had BIL sleeping in the freezing basement because she wouldn't leave, let him into bed, or.get rid of her loser friends who are constantly crashing on their couch. Yes, really. So when E told me this and was visibly upset for his bro and little nephew, I told him to tell his bro that he was welcome to stay in our guest room and even bring the baby and we'd find a way to make accommodation. And E said he'd already told BIL that. So he didn't ask me.first, but he knew I'd be offering the same thing anyway. BIL didn't take us up on it, fortunately or unfortunately.

KSMILEY 77

Yes, she's totally BSC!!! 

And yes, I think I definitely deserve a spa day after this! haha Thanks for the idea, Jackie  

Okay, so the full story.... do you all remember when I was venting about her not getting a job? Well, a friend of hers asked her to go to NC for a few months to help them with a job (she was a general contractor) and they would pay her and let her stay with them for free. Great, right?! Well, she's been up there for a few weeks and now her friend is on vaca in Europe. Seems weird to me, but who knows... So, while they're in Europe, she has been staying with some family in NC. On her way to her brothers 60th bday party, her car died ($2000 to fix), and she missed the party. She claims they are so mad at her for missing the party that they won't let her stay with them anymore. Well, that just makes no sense to us. She asked them a long time ago if she could stay with them and they said only if she has a job. So, we're assuming they won't let her stay there because she's not working now. Anyhow, she's staying in a hotel room now and called Bryan yesterday and asked to come stay with us because she can't afford the hotel room. She wanted to come like today and Bryan told her she couldnt because his dad was coming this weekend (they're divorced), so she's upset about that and wants to come Sunday when he leaves. Is it bad that I would rather pay for her hotel room?! haha. 

DH knows that it's not cool at all and I'm pissed. He's pretty pissed about it too actually, but he is still getting an earful from me!  

So, I went and had some retail therapy and bought Margot and I both new dresses for the wedding on Saturday. Of course, I stepped in gum in the parking lot. Just my luck these days  

Off to change a poop..... be back in a few.  

msmarsh

(((Hugs!))))

Maybe this will be a good bonding experience for you two? I'm trying to be optimistic when all I really want to say is RUN!

KSMILEY 77

msmarsh:

(((Hugs!))))

Maybe this will be a good bonding experience for you two? I'm trying to be optimistic when all I really want to say is RUN!

LOL thanks  

LarissaAnn

What of you and Margot stay I'm the hotel?

aligator423uf

I forget what her home life is like, or if she even has a house to go to but....why doesn't she just go home?

Five_letter

LarissaAnn:

Why on earth is your MIL coming when he'll be away?! And how did you "just find out"? Who decided this? I'd be telling her sorry, but it won't work. I have plans.

I'd randomly just have plans all over the place and be gone with the baby - even if it is just hiding out at my bff's house. 

Five_letter

KSMILEY 77:

Yes, she's totally BSC!!! 

And yes, I think I definitely deserve a spa day after this! haha Thanks for the idea, Jackie  

Okay, so the full story.... do you all remember when I was venting about her not getting a job? Well, a friend of hers asked her to go to NC for a few months to help them with a job (she was a general contractor) and they would pay her and let her stay with them for free. Great, right?! Well, she's been up there for a few weeks and now her friend is on vaca in Europe. Seems weird to me, but who knows... So, while they're in Europe, she has been staying with some family in NC. On her way to her brothers 60th bday party, her car died ($2000 to fix), and she missed the party. She claims they are so mad at her for missing the party that they won't let her stay with them anymore. Well, that just makes no sense to us. She asked them a long time ago if she could stay with them and they said only if she has a job. So, we're assuming they won't let her stay there because she's not working now. Anyhow, she's staying in a hotel room now and called Bryan yesterday and asked to come stay with us because she can't afford the hotel room. She wanted to come like today and Bryan told her she couldnt because his dad was coming this weekend (they're divorced), so she's upset about that and wants to come Sunday when he leaves. Is it bad that I would rather pay for her hotel room?! haha. 

DH knows that it's not cool at all and I'm pissed. He's pretty pissed about it too actually, but he is still getting an earful from me!  

So, I went and had some retail therapy and bought Margot and I both new dresses for the wedding on Saturday. Of course, I stepped in gum in the parking lot. Just my luck these days  

Off to change a poop..... be back in a few.  

Holy shiit (no pun intended)

What are the chances this transforms into an extended stay past two weeks? I think you two are going to have to discuss this possibility. 

LarissaAnn

Five_letter:

KSMILEY 77:

Yes, she's totally BSC!!! 

And yes, I think I definitely deserve a spa day after this! haha Thanks for the idea, Jackie  

Okay, so the full story.... do you all remember when I was venting about her not getting a job? Well, a friend of hers asked her to go to NC for a few months to help them with a job (she was a general contractor) and they would pay her and let her stay with them for free. Great, right?! Well, she's been up there for a few weeks and now her friend is on vaca in Europe. Seems weird to me, but who knows... So, while they're in Europe, she has been staying with some family in NC. On her way to her brothers 60th bday party, her car died ($2000 to fix), and she missed the party. She claims they are so mad at her for missing the party that they won't let her stay with them anymore. Well, that just makes no sense to us. She asked them a long time ago if she could stay with them and they said only if she has a job. So, we're assuming they won't let her stay there because she's not working now. Anyhow, she's staying in a hotel room now and called Bryan yesterday and asked to come stay with us because she can't afford the hotel room. She wanted to come like today and Bryan told her she couldnt because his dad was coming this weekend (they're divorced), so she's upset about that and wants to come Sunday when he leaves. Is it bad that I would rather pay for her hotel room?! haha. 

DH knows that it's not cool at all and I'm pissed. He's pretty pissed about it too actually, but he is still getting an earful from me!  

So, I went and had some retail therapy and bought Margot and I both new dresses for the wedding on Saturday. Of course, I stepped in gum in the parking lot. Just my luck these days  

Off to change a poop..... be back in a few.  

Holy shiit (no pun intended)

What are the chances this transforms into an extended stay past two weeks? I think you two are going to have to discuss this possibility. 

I think MIL needs to hear the word NO.

KSMILEY 77

aligator423uf:

I forget what her home life is like, or if she even has a house to go to but....why doesn't she just go home?

She hasn't worked in years and blew through all of her retirement savings and has been living with BIL for a few years. BIL has been trying to get her out of his house for a while now. We told him not to let her move in and he didn't listen. Anyhow, he finally got her out, so no she really has no home.

aligator423uf

KSMILEY 77:

aligator423uf:

I forget what her home life is like, or if she even has a house to go to but....why doesn't she just go home?

She hasn't worked in years and blew through all of her retirement savings and has been living with BIL for a few years. BIL has been trying to get her out of his house for a while now. We told him not to let her move in and he didn't listen. Anyhow, he finally got her out, so no she really has no home.

Wonderful. I'm really hoping this 2 weeks doesn't last longer like Marcy said.

LarissaAnn

aligator423uf:

KSMILEY 77:

aligator423uf:

I forget what her home life is like, or if she even has a house to go to but....why doesn't she just go home?

She hasn't worked in years and blew through all of her retirement savings and has been living with BIL for a few years. BIL has been trying to get her out of his house for a while now. We told him not to let her move in and he didn't listen. Anyhow, he finally got her out, so no she really has no home.

Wonderful. I'm really hoping this 2 weeks doesn't last longer like Marcy said.

I have a bad feeling about this.

LarissaAnn

I remember this now.  When you were pregnant BIL wanted her to move in with you guys and you said no?  You came here for confirmation that saying no wasn't bitchy, right?

Don't do this, Kristen.  I'm serious.  She has no home, and you'll have a new roommate a/k/a leech.  She will not leave and she will not pay, and you'll be supporting her and you won't be able to get her out.  I'm dead serious.

maynard1978

Oh Kristen, I feel for you!  You know how much I loved the experience of having my MIL here for a week ((snort)) - I hope you are able to get some time to yourself and with Margot without her.  That helped me the most!!  ((hugs))

ashleymvee

Holy Moly...not good!! 

alyssa44

LarissaAnn:

I remember this now.  When you were pregnant BIL wanted her to move in with you guys and you said no?  You came here for confirmation that saying no wasn't bitchy, right?

Don't do this, Kristen.  I'm serious.  She has no home, and you'll have a new roommate a/k/a leech.  She will not leave and she will not pay, and you'll be supporting her and you won't be able to get her out.  I'm dead serious.

I'm in the process of booking Larissa a ticket to FL.  I think we need to let her handle your MIL.

How are you going to be with her handling Margot?  I would be so uneasy about this.  You are a much better person than I am for dealing with this.

LarissaAnn

If only I could go... I'd do it in a second.