Stolen from MM: Do you feel like an adult?

mamie329

I sure as hell don't. Other than my desire to stay in on a Friday night wearing comfy clothes rather than getting my buzz on at a bar, I still feel like a kid. I often wonder how people let me have adult things like a car and a house and a husband. 

kaleyandjason

No, not at all. And I probably don't act like one either. 

v3ron

I kind of do. I think it's the big decisions dh and I made last year that make me feel that way.

stephriz

I feel like we're just playing adults and that I'm still the same as high school. 

But I had a big moment when the high schooler across the street called me ma'am and I realized I'm just the homeowner neighbor and NOT a teenager.  sigh.

SBS0628

Not in the slightest. Perhaps it's because my house is full of Twilight paraphenellia and video games? Or maybe it's because I wear jeans and sneakers and hooded sweatshirts to work every day, since I'm working with other "student" employees? Or maybe it's that my weekly diet usually consists of at least one night of either pizza or Taco Bell?

Then again...I do have two Master's degrees. I suppose a consequence of that is being semi-adult-ish. And in my free time I would rather sew or knit or read a book than go out to a bar or even to a house party.

But I do still have that "playing house" feeling. Even though friends of mine are homeoweners and/or parents, I still see them as who they were when I met them...which, for the most part, is as high school and/or college students.

Then again...I'm around high schoolers and college students for work a lot, and I often comment that they make me feel so "old" because of their behaviors/what's important to them in life right now.

I guess I'm on the fence.

Junebug060609

Absolutely.  I'm 34, married & pregnant.  We've already owned and sold our first house.  I haven't had the desire to go out drinking in years, aside from sharing some wine or a few beers with friends (when not pg of course). 

About the only thing I can think of that would make me feel more adult-like is having the responsiblity of a child living on the outside of my body. 

Kellybeth124

Nope. I'm still in school (even though I already have a degree) and our finances aren't where we'd like them to be. Due to budget cuts, DH is losing his work-provided vehicle so we're going to have to pull money from nowhere to buy him something. It's essentially a large pay-cut for DH so he's started looking for new jobs. Money wise, it's a big set back for us over all and I've been sulking about it for a week now.

mbd62709

Yes, but I probably didn't start feeling that way until I was in my 30's, and it really hit home last April when A was born. I was in such a hurry to grow up and now that I am there, I wish I would of enjoyed the carefree times more. That is one thing I hope to instill in my kids, to enjoy their time being kids, teenagers, young adults and not keep wishing to be older.

megs1383

Not really. I feel capable of making adult decisions, but often feel like a kid when I am around other adults. Maybe because I work at a college, mostly with people in their very early 20s. I don't dress very "adult", I usually wear jeans to work, and am still completely incapable of wearing heels.

Leigha12

I do finally. I think for me it has more to do with the job than anything else. I finally have a permanent, long-term potential career as opposed to just a job (or worse, unemployment). DH and I have been together so long that we've always felt like an old married couple.  We're not where we want to be in terms of finance, but we definitely feel like that is an adult struggle!

luckycooky

Yes, a majority of the time. I sometimes want to see myself about 5-10 years younger than I am but I never really enjoyed my teens and early 20's so I guess I'm trying to get it out before I turn 30 next year.

vhcoleman09

mbd62709:

Yes, but I probably didn't start feeling that way until I was in my 30's, and it really hit home last April when A was born. I was in such a hurry to grow up and now that I am there, I wish I would of enjoyed the carefree times more. That is one thing I hope to instill in my kids, to enjoy their time being kids, teenagers, young adults and not keep wishing to be older.

mb, as usual, you took the words out of my mouth. exactly. except switch April with May.

Don't Hassle the Hoff

I definitely feel like an adult, but I still go out and do the fun things that my 20 year old self did. I get bummed when no one is going out on a Friday night. I like going to bars, getting buzzed and dancing, but I realize that there's a good chance I will have to do yardwork completely hung over the next morning. I realize that I can't burn an entire day sleeping off a hangover. I own a house, am married (obviously), have a pain in the ass job that runs my life and have endless other responsibilities I need to take care of. I'm definitely an adult.

barbnsteve

I go back and forth on this one.  I definitely feel like an adult and have more than enough responsibilities to mean that I am one.  I certainly prefer to put on my pjs on a Friday night and am usually passed out on the couch fairly early as my job is quite draining.  However, I always wonder where the time has gone and how I have gotten here.  I also totally go back and forth on the whole having a kid thing.  I've always wanted to be a mom, but now that the possibility of actually making that happen is drawing near, I'm starting to get cold feet.  DH and I love to be spontaneous and I don't think I'm quite ready to give that up.  But, I really don't feel like I'll fully be an adult 'til we have kids.

keb270

Not really. While I feel much older than high school students, I still find myself thinking that I'm a college student. Like SBS, I work at a college so I think I forget that I'm not one anymore! I also keep in touch with all my college friends and act like one when we get together. My family also still refers to my sister and I as "the kids" which probably doesn't help the situation.