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Freaking out
Sorry I don't know where else to post this right now. I mainly on lurker on this board but post every few months but my husband and I just found out that we are pregnant with our second baby. We are excited and nervous all at the same time
But our son is only 8 months old and I feel really guilty that we didn't give him time to be by himself. How do I get over this guilt. I know there are others on this board who are on their second.
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Re: Freaking out
First, let me say congrats on your beautiful little boy (assuming that's him in your siggy) And secondly for the one on the way!
I'm not a mom myself, but I know a lot of moms! This actually happened to a good friend of mine.. Except her son was only 6 months old when she got pregnant with her second. She went through the same freak out and regret. Her (and her husband's) plan was to wait 3 years before #2. After she had her daughter, she was all a-glow. Taking care of 2 tiny ones was a lot of work, but she was happy in the end. Her son is now 4, and the daughter 3, and they're best friends. She's happy that they always have someone to play with, and share things with. It ended up being a blessing.
Try not to feel guilty about this. He's still young, and he'll go through everything he's supposed to. And he's still so young he may not even notice that he didn't get "me" time.
Congratulations!
This was my first thought. He'll still have the next 9 months alone with you two and after that he'll have a new friend for life. I love that my siblings and I are so close (my sister is 14mo. older than my twin brother and myself).
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Congratulations!
This is my thought, too -
Try not to worry about it now, and spend lots of time with your son while you are pregnant. You won't be ignoring him when the baby comes - as a family you can all do wonderful things together and grow as a unit. :-)
First, congratulations!!!
My nieces are 17 months apart and it's the same as other pp, they are the best of friends. It was difficult when they were super little, but isn't it always difficult when the second one comes along for a little while? Don't feel guilty!
Congratulations!
I can't say much more than what the other ladies have said, especially since I don't have first hand experience. I'm in the same boat you are in. Even though we wanted our kids to be close, and I was beside myself excited when I found out I was pregnant with #2, I have had moments wracked with guilt. It hit me kind of hard the other night when SIL came over for dinner with her two boys (they are 24 months apart, the youngest about 10 months younger than Gabby). I was playing with our younger nephew and my poor Gabby was obviously confused and wanting some of that attention. It kind of broke my heart.
But I have to remind myself that I am giving her something I certainly never had - a sibling close in age, a constant companion, a built-in friend. I cannot wait to see how they interact with one another and how they grow up together.