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nice vs mean
i think some people just plain have a mean bone in their body...that no matter how nice you try to be to that person they're still mean/rude back to you. i just don't get it. it would wear me out to just me mean all the time...i can't understand hating life that much. (im not talking about anything on TN) but ive seen people on FB that no matter what someone says to them they're snarky/mean/rude...it irriates me!
so what do you think?
can someone just have a mean bone in their body?
Re: nice vs mean
Yes, there definitely are just not nice people in the world.
I think everyone has the potential for meanness and the potential for kindness. That being said, some people lean more one way or the other.
Perception also plays into it. I am a super sarcastic person. I've learned that this doesn't come across well online and so I edit my thoughts/comments. But even in person - my MIL is convinced I hate her. While she's not my favorite person, it's more just her perception my personality - dry, oddball sense of humor peppered with tons of sarcasm.
Is it possible these people are oblivious w/r/t how they come across?
No, they fully know how they act. That's the sad part.
Agree with Deb. There are defiantely people who are miserable and therefore are nasty and make others around them miserable as well.
I agree that there are people that are just mean. MIL is one of those people and it drives me crazy. She just wishes bad things for everyone and is a victim in every scenario.
But I think the opposite is true too. There are lots of people that are just born altruistic and kind. I think there are more of these types of people.
Some people are just miserable.
I have the capacity to be very mean - if someone gets my gander up or does a no no to my friends or family, I state very honestly and succinctly exactly where their inadequacies as a human being lie. The worst thing you can do to a mean person is point out the worst part of them. I don't mince words and most people don't like that. Too bad so sad you shouldn't have been a mean ahole in the first place. In my experience, most mean people can't take it when it's turned around on them, so doing it once should ensure you don't have to deal with it ever again.