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How can a decision feel so wrong yet so right?
My family just visited Avondale/Goodyear and we fell in love! We are selling our house and moving down there as soon as we can. We have job and school oppoptunities there and cant wait to have a fresh start to our lives!! Where we live, there is no room for growth, no job opportunities, nothing..... dead end jobs and living paycheck to paycheck.
Here is the problem.... my family is devistated that we are choosing to move 1200 miles away. I am heartbroken about it as well. I was on the phone with my grandma today talking about moving and she started crying and told me her heart was breaking. That of course made me bawl too. She said that she is afraid of never seeing me, my husband and my kids again.... which of course is not true. We will be visiting at least once a year and hopefully twice. We are also gonna try to fly them down there too.
I just know that we are making the right decision by moving..... but why does it have to break my family's hearts and mine as well??
Re: How can a decision feel so wrong yet so right?
I know it is tough based on that I'm from upstate ny.
But they can visit/you can visit and it's ok to have your own life separate from them even though you will miss them.
You can skype/phone calls, it will all work out. Do what is best for your hubby you and your kids!
I'm with CTri as we're from the same town in Upstate NY, which was/is a land of no opportunity also.
It was VERY hard on my family, and still is, when DH & I decided to move here but they knew it was best for us and did nothing to hold us back. Of course, they were sad but I think they've learned to accept it now, knowing we won't be going back there to live.
We visit and they visit and we'll start Skype once our LO is born.
You have to do what is right for you and your family (DH and kids) and it will all work out.
Good luck!
We went through the same thing when we moved here from Sacramento (about the same distance). The first few years we drove back home 2-3 times a year, but now (6 years later) we might go once a year. It was really hard and first and we got a lot of grief, but it was the best decision for us. You'll also find out your true family and friends that matter--a lot of people that gave us a hard time haven't even been down to visit, so it's kind of made the transition easier.
Good luck!