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Totally pointless poll, but would you take on roommates?
I'm really just nosy on what other people's take on this is!
Two of our guy friends, A and B, are roommates and their lease will be up this summer. B and his girlfriend C have decided to move in together. C is strongly encouraging A to continue living with the two of them and actually seems kind of hurt that he declined. A and C have been roommates before and that worked out okay but I think its either that he doesn't want to live as a couple or this past year with her changing his DVR settings for hers and such has soured him and he's been discussing possibly rooming with other friends. She seems put out that he won't consider it.
Soooo.....as a couple (either married or if you lived together before marriage), would you take on a roommate or roommates? If you weren't living with your SO would you have considered being roommates with a couple? Why or why not?
DH and I lived together for 2+ years before our wedding and so this has come up several times. We agree that we wouldn't take on a roommate for more than a short interval and only then if it was between the end of their current lease and the end of their future roommate's lease. And only if they had a new lease set up and a definite "out by" date. In our new place since we'll have a designated guest room I might be able to stretch that interval to 6 weeks, maybe a tad longer depending on the friend.
If I was single, it would really really depend. I can think of one couple where I'm close to both of them and might have been okay with it but even then I fear I'd feel like a third wheel.
Re: Totally pointless poll, but would you take on roommates?
Generally speaking, I don't think that we'd ever take on a roommate. But there are always exceptions to the rule - like you mentioned above, if it was a close friend of ours that just have a few weeks between the end of one lease and the start of another. Something like that would be acceptable, as long as there is a move out date and the length of stay isn't more than a few weeks.
If I was single, I think it just depends on the couple. If I was close with both of them and again, it was only for a few weeks, I'd do it.
Hm...I don't know. I think as a couple if you choose to live together it should really be just you. That's a pretty big step for a relationship, and it kind of lessens the importance of it if there are roommates.
Personally, I wouldn't want to be the third roommate with a couple. I think it would be weird.
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In college, I was the extra roommate, kind of. (Technically I was the roomie, but there was a couple.) My friend Michelle's roommate bailed out on her. My situation had actually changed and I was looking for a new roommate. She had already signed her lease, so I signed it as well and moved in. Her boyfriend (they had been dating about a year I think?) was moving to town and needed somewhere to stay. I loved her bf so I told her I was totally down. We all ended up living together for 2 years. It wasn't ever awkward or weird, and we were all super close. I was in the hispital with her when her baby was born, and her little girl was our flower girl. For us, I think it made all three of us even closer friends. But I know we aren't the norm.
As for NOW, (as "adults" and not in college") I wouldn't take a roommate on and if I were single, I probably would live alone again. (I lived alone for 2 years before DH and I married.) I think in my mid-twenties, it's a different situation than when I was 21/22. I think now it would be weird to live with a serious dating couple/married couple.
I would only take on a roomie if it was a short period of time (like less than 6 months) or if it was a family member in need.
In college my roommate's boyfriend (now husband) needed a place to stay for about 4 months so he lived with us, and it was fine. I did make him chip in on rent and utilities though. But we never had any issues and they are our best friends and actually the couple who introduced me to DH.
But now that we are all older and DH and I are married, I do think it would be kind of weird to have a single roommate, especially if it was for an extended period of time.
You know, I'm not totally sure...
H and I, as many of you know, went to HS together. Then college and lived in the dorms. Then we had seven other roommates in a huge house (like six bedrooms) and we had our own room.
Then we moved out and lived with one other roommate, a girl. So H and I our own room/bathroom. She had her own room and the guest bathroom was hers.
When she left for law school, H and I were on our own for the first time.
So it would depend now...if H was NEVER home, I think I'd consider it, it'd be nice to have someone around. But it would ONLY be the girl we were roommates with before or my other best friend.