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Can I vent for a second? (Long)

So, to put all my ish out there, I live with my in-laws.  Its not something I talk about (a few people on here knew, but not many) as its not something I'm particularly proud of and I don't want to whine or complain about it all the time, but what can you do, it is what it is.  So living with my in-laws is not just MIL and FIL, which I could actually handle, there's also 2 BILs and 1 SIL.  That's where the real fun starts.  The house is very big, but there are only 2 bathrooms, one being in ILs room.  So I share a bathroom with DH, DS, 2 BILs, and SIL.   

My SIL is one of the worst people I know.  She is self-centered, bratty, arrogant, and dumb, which makes the rest even worse.  She is "hot" in a fake way (think Pamela Anderson) and has made her entire life centered around that fact.  She is a talented dancer, but never really did anything with it and has spent the last 10 or so years dancing in bars (not strip, think Shepherd's).  She thinks she's queen of the world though and that everything revolves around her.  Unfortunately ILs have done nothing to stop her thought process on that one.

Last week DH, DS, and I were gone, staying at his cousin's house taking care of their kids while they were in Russia.  When we got back SIL had put a big, dirty fake plant in the bathroom and a candle warmer thingy.  Now I admit, I did unplug the thing once or twice, but mostly left it alone, even though those things are dangerous.  Yesterday I get home from work with DS and she has duct taped a note to the mirror Stop unplugging the candle warmer and underneath that in lipstick it says "Stop touching T's things or I will have to take action".  I don't live in a world of empty threats or moronity, so I pulled the note down (awesome, duct tape on glass, that doesn't leave a mark) and cleaned the lipstick off the mirror.  I didn't touch her precious candle warmer. 

Today I went out with DS and when I came home, the bathroom was completely trashed.  Shower curtain and rod on the floor, all bottles and things from the shower strewn all around (including hers, remember I said she was dumb) and in lipstick again "Stop unplugging the candle warmer". Seriously, she trashed the bathroom over a candle warmer.  So I called MIL to tell her what had happened and was instructed not to do anything so FIL could see (for some reason he doesn't believe half the crap she does).  So he came home and "dealt" with it, which involved him cleaning it up.  Awesome. Oh, and I'm pretty sure they took her out to dinner with them tonight.

She is seriously the one person in the world that if I NEVER see again, that's too soon.  I really don't like saying it, and I wish no ill will on her or anything, but I don't need that toxicity in my life, and my beautiful 3 year old doesn't either.  This incident is one of many things she has done, usually completely unprovoked.

Oh, and the best part...she's 40.   

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  • OMG! That would drive me crazy! Through out the post I was thinking "How old is this girl?" and I was shocked to read she is 40. Really? She needs to grow up. she is acting like a baby! Maybe she needs the candle warmer plugged in all the time bc she sticks up the bathroom a lot and doesn't want anyone to know? Ugh. I'm sorry you have to deal with her!

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  • Wow!  I was with you until the trashed bathroom and the lipstick on the mirror.  At first I was thinking "I have the same exact SIL!" bc of the beginning of the post and I was planning on relating and saying I feel ya, etc.  but by the end I just need to thank you bc now I realize that she could be worse.  (or I could live with her and have to see that she is worse).  Either way.  Thank you.  And wow.  And I'm sooo sorry.  That sounds like a total nightmare to live with.  Not fair.  And poor DH, what does he say about this? 
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  • WOW! 40 really? I was thinking about the same thing the whole time, my guess was 19-21 yrs old.
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  • Hahaha I'm sorry I have to say that I knew who you were talking about when you said she was 40! I thought she was older. I used to be a total club girl that knew who she was... didn't know she was still shacked up with the parentals. Sorry you have to deal with that, never knew she was such a brat! And, don't worry, I don't know her personally or anyone who does... I just had to share!
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  • O.M.G. Any chance of her leaving soon?

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    O.M.G. Any chance of her leaving soon?

    No K8, its any chance of us leaving soon!! Seriously, DH's business is going really well now (we went through a time when he hardly worked right after I had Q, which is why we're here), so hopefully we can move soon.  Plus I'm working now too, which will help. I highly doubt she will ever leave, she doesn't have a real job, has no plans on getting one, and claims she's going to marry rich.  Ha! I don't think you're going to meet guys with real $$ shaking your butt at some cheesy club in St. Pete.  

    But really, there is a big part of me that just feels sorry for her.  Oh, and to whomever asked about what DH thinks, he just laughs.  Not that he thinks its funny, but he's been putting up with her since he was born, so I have to give him at least a little leeway on that one. 

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    Hahaha I'm sorry I have to say that I knew who you were talking about when you said she was 40! I thought she was older. I used to be a total club girl that knew who she was... didn't know she was still shacked up with the parentals. Sorry you have to deal with that, never knew she was such a brat! And, don't worry, I don't know her personally or anyone who does... I just had to share!

    Ha, nice to know you thought she was older.  She seriously believes people think she's the age she has on her Facebook, which I think is 28 or something.   

  • I hope you'll get out soon, then. I think you're right about the toxicity thing -- that's just not good for anyone to be around, much less Quinn. How the F do you explain to a child when an adult behaves like that and trashes the house?

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  • Wow, I'm soooo sorry you have to deal with that!  How immature and disrespectful.... from a 40 year old woman... wow - just wow!  I really hope you dont hvae to live with someone like that much longer.  hugs!
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  • I'm so sorry, Kim that just sounds like a terrible, awkward living situation.

    And your SIL needs a reality check.  Rich men don't want 40 year old women with zero ambition when there are plenty of equally hot women half their age that are intelligent and looking to do something with their lives.

  • 40?!? Yowzers. I think I'd lose my mind if I were in that situation. Hope you're able to move soon
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  • Ugh, she sounds like a real peach.  It's never easy living with other people, especially when they are a-holes like her.  

    Hopefully she gets an attitude adjustment soon or maybe evens decides to move out.  For everyone's sake. 

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  • Oh, ew! I really really hope you guys can move soon!
  • Wow, I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. Hopefully you can get out soon!
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  • OMG! I was thinking 21 year old brat. I'm so sorry you've got deal with that crap on a daily basis! Hopefully the living situation isn't permanent!
  • WOW!  I am so sorry you have to deal with her.  As I was reading I thought what a brat, she needs to grow up.  But then you said she is 40?!?  I cannot believe that she is acting that way.  No wonder she is single!
  • I think Liz knows an apartment she can rent.  Heh.  ;)
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  • Oh honey that is pure crazy! and my mouth dropped when you said 40.. ewwww.

    I hope you guys can get out soon, sucks so much. Good luck.  

     

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  • imagenicoleg1982:
    I think Liz knows an apartment she can rent.  Heh.  ;)

    I do like the way you think Nicole!

  • imagenicoleg1982:
    I think Liz knows an apartment she can rent.  Heh.  ;)

    Yes  I will put in a recommendation! She can have ours when we move out! haha


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