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Mrs. Little Drew 10/25/08
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TTC since 1/2010 - Dx with Stage IV Endo
11/10 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
12/10 - Unmedicated cycle due to RE not doing treatments in December = BFN
1/11 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
2/11 - Same sh!t, different month = IUI cancelled due to no response = BFN
IVF #1 - Start stims (Follistim) 5/10, add in Ganirelix 5/14
ER 5/21 - 13 retrieved, 7 mature, 5 fertilized; ET 5/26 - transferred one perfect 1AA blast. 3 snowbabies.
Beta 6/3 - 15.8; Beta 6/7 - 21.8; Beta 6/10 - 7
FET - Transferred 1 AA blast 7/11. Beta 7/20 - 311! Beta 7/22 - 784!! First u/s 8/10
*~PAIFW/SAIFW~*
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WWOct08D - Booking a cruise?
Friends of ours are going on a cruise next April to "get married". It was supposed to be their wedding, but they eloped in December. Her DH still promised her that she could have her dream wedding on the cruise if they eloped. She has been talking about this cruise for forever, literally forever! Well, she finally booked it.
Now, I'm trying to think positively that my first IVF is going to work. If it does, we'll have a 2-4 month old next April. The baby won't be able to go because the minimum age is 6 months. Would you go and leave the baby? The baby would stay with family, probably DH's parents.
I'll share my opinion later after I get some input. Consider Drew, who has looked forward to this cruise, in your responses.
Mrs. Little Drew 10/25/08
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TTC since 1/2010 - Dx with Stage IV Endo
11/10 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
12/10 - Unmedicated cycle due to RE not doing treatments in December = BFN
1/11 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
2/11 - Same sh!t, different month = IUI cancelled due to no response = BFN
IVF #1 - Start stims (Follistim) 5/10, add in Ganirelix 5/14
ER 5/21 - 13 retrieved, 7 mature, 5 fertilized; ET 5/26 - transferred one perfect 1AA blast. 3 snowbabies.
Beta 6/3 - 15.8; Beta 6/7 - 21.8; Beta 6/10 - 7
FET - Transferred 1 AA blast 7/11. Beta 7/20 - 311! Beta 7/22 - 784!! First u/s 8/10
*~PAIFW/SAIFW~*
Re: WWOct08D - Booking a cruise?
me personally, at that age, not a chance. i also BF so that also impacts my decision but i wouldn't have left her for a vacation when she was that little.
i'm not opposed to going on vacation without the baby (we are going to mexico in september w/out her) but she'll be 13 months then so it's MUCH different.
i definitely think having a night alone at that age is important (we started having her have sleepovers at my parent's house at 4 weeks) but i couldn't even think of leaving her for that long so young.
eta: regarding drew, and i mean this in the nicest way, having a baby changes things. it doesn't necessarily mean that you CAN'T do the things you want anymore, it just means that sometimes you have to rearrange WHEN and HOW you do them. unfortunately it may interfere with something you have wanted to do for a long time but that is what is involved with being a parent. and it's not just vacation. it's even running to the store or even taking a shower.
Zoey Emma 08.18.10
Is there some kind of travel insurance or cancellation deadline, or a way to change your plans at a later date?
It's super important to think positively about your TTC plans, but it's also important I think not to put the other aspects of your life on hold. So, could you plan for the cruise, and then cancel when you get your BFP (which we all know you will!)
We can book whenever. I do know that if we book now, we get an Early Saver discount. I have no clue how long that goes for.
Mrs. Little Drew 10/25/08
Blog
TTC since 1/2010 - Dx with Stage IV Endo
11/10 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
12/10 - Unmedicated cycle due to RE not doing treatments in December = BFN
1/11 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
2/11 - Same sh!t, different month = IUI cancelled due to no response = BFN
IVF #1 - Start stims (Follistim) 5/10, add in Ganirelix 5/14
ER 5/21 - 13 retrieved, 7 mature, 5 fertilized; ET 5/26 - transferred one perfect 1AA blast. 3 snowbabies.
Beta 6/3 - 15.8; Beta 6/7 - 21.8; Beta 6/10 - 7
FET - Transferred 1 AA blast 7/11. Beta 7/20 - 311! Beta 7/22 - 784!! First u/s 8/10
*~PAIFW/SAIFW~*
How long is the cruise? A 4 day might be okay. Maybe. But anything longer and I agree with crows.
After waiting so long - do you really think you'll even want to go or have a good time? Even with an early booking special, I think it would be a waste of money. You'll be miserable.
Welcome to the dark side
No I couldn't imagine leaving Xander for a week or even a long weekend at this point. Our first night away from him he was only 5 minutes away from us so it made me feel better that I could go to my sister's house and get him if I had a breakdown being away from him. I didn't but it still made me feel better.
To be honest, I still don't like having him sleep at one of our parents' houses. I miss him in the morning when he is super cuddly when he wakes up, the first smiles of the day and my good morning hug and kiss.
About Drew, I agree with what Crows said.
Alexander David
11.25.09
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Ok, here's my opinion now.
I didn't think that I'd be comfortable leaving my baby that early for a week. I could see overnight, or for two nights, but not for a week. I made a promise to Drew that I wouldn't be that "first time mom" and obsess over every little thing. Some things will be harder than others, but I'm going to work hard at it.
I feel bad making him miss it because we couldn't conceive before this point. It's just one more thing that's been f'ed up because of my infertility and I'm really upset about it.
I know that once a baby gets here he'll be all about the baby, I just really hope that he's not bitter towards me because we have to miss this and we've been talking about it forever!
Mrs. Little Drew 10/25/08
Blog
TTC since 1/2010 - Dx with Stage IV Endo
11/10 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
12/10 - Unmedicated cycle due to RE not doing treatments in December = BFN
1/11 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
2/11 - Same sh!t, different month = IUI cancelled due to no response = BFN
IVF #1 - Start stims (Follistim) 5/10, add in Ganirelix 5/14
ER 5/21 - 13 retrieved, 7 mature, 5 fertilized; ET 5/26 - transferred one perfect 1AA blast. 3 snowbabies.
Beta 6/3 - 15.8; Beta 6/7 - 21.8; Beta 6/10 - 7
FET - Transferred 1 AA blast 7/11. Beta 7/20 - 311! Beta 7/22 - 784!! First u/s 8/10
*~PAIFW/SAIFW~*
This but really everyone covered so many points.
I would wait a few months to book and see what happens. I probably would say screw the early savers discount even. Go with your gut and get the insurance if you can.
If you will breast feed that is an entirely different thing to consider aside from leaving a new baby. Would you be cool with Drew going without you? Do you think you could handle things without him?
Hells no!! There is no way that he's going without me. I could most certainly handle things on my own, but I don't think that either one of us would enjoy ourselves very much during that week. I would miss him and his help, and he would miss me too much.
Well, if I'm being honest, if he told me that he really wanted to go, then I would let him. I'd be upset, and super jealous, but I'd let him go. I don't think he would want to go alone though.
Mrs. Little Drew 10/25/08
Blog
TTC since 1/2010 - Dx with Stage IV Endo
11/10 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
12/10 - Unmedicated cycle due to RE not doing treatments in December = BFN
1/11 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
2/11 - Same sh!t, different month = IUI cancelled due to no response = BFN
IVF #1 - Start stims (Follistim) 5/10, add in Ganirelix 5/14
ER 5/21 - 13 retrieved, 7 mature, 5 fertilized; ET 5/26 - transferred one perfect 1AA blast. 3 snowbabies.
Beta 6/3 - 15.8; Beta 6/7 - 21.8; Beta 6/10 - 7
FET - Transferred 1 AA blast 7/11. Beta 7/20 - 311! Beta 7/22 - 784!! First u/s 8/10
*~PAIFW/SAIFW~*
more power to you!
i sure as hell wouldn't have been able to at that age! LOL
Zoey Emma 08.18.10
Yes you could! It would be hard, but you'd just power through and get it done. There are tons of people who single parent for a variety of reasons, whether it be for a week, a month, a year, or a lifetime. I'm sure they'll tell you that it's hard, but they do it. And you could too!!
Mrs. Little Drew 10/25/08
Blog
TTC since 1/2010 - Dx with Stage IV Endo
11/10 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
12/10 - Unmedicated cycle due to RE not doing treatments in December = BFN
1/11 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
2/11 - Same sh!t, different month = IUI cancelled due to no response = BFN
IVF #1 - Start stims (Follistim) 5/10, add in Ganirelix 5/14
ER 5/21 - 13 retrieved, 7 mature, 5 fertilized; ET 5/26 - transferred one perfect 1AA blast. 3 snowbabies.
Beta 6/3 - 15.8; Beta 6/7 - 21.8; Beta 6/10 - 7
FET - Transferred 1 AA blast 7/11. Beta 7/20 - 311! Beta 7/22 - 784!! First u/s 8/10
*~PAIFW/SAIFW~*
ummm yeah it's completely different if that's the situation you were put in.
Zoey Emma 08.18.10
Okay this made me LOL. I was just thinking what might be a way to prevent him from getting upset about not going vs.going. I wouldn't be cool if DH did that without me either but sometimes I know I am not as 'chill' as the reast of the board.
Good luck figuring it out, I guess if you don't mind missing out on the savings wait for a bit.