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Easter baskets for cousins, what is the cut-off age?
I'm just wondering what is the cut-off age for giving an Easter Basket to a niece or nephew.
and at what age are children expected to say 'thank you' with prompting from their parents?
Thanks.
Re: Easter baskets for cousins, what is the cut-off age?
I was never given Easter baskets from my aunts/uncles, just the"Easter Bunny" and only until we stopped believing. I think my parents may have done baskets for a couple years after we stopped beliving in the bunny but we were still pretty young when they stopped ( I want to say about 10).
Also we were expected to say thank you for our gifts as soon as we were old enough to talk.
We still make baskets for our niece and nephew and they'll be 11 and 8 this year.
And I agree with pp - pretty much as soon as we could talk we were expected to say "thank you." I don't think we needed to be prompted more than once that it was appropriate and expected behavior.
All of this. We don't live near my niece and nephews, but we always send them a care package for Valentine's Day and Easter with their favorite candies in it and a small, new toy. They range from 11 to 4 1/2.
Re: TY - children should be expected to say thank you as soon as they can form the words!
As for the Easter Baskets, I will tell you a story. DH's stepmom favored her bio-grandkids, the children of her daughter with FIL (vs. DH's, BIL, SILs kids, even though she has been with FIL since DH and his siblings were 10). One Easter, she gave huge baskets to her bio-grandkids "because they were younger." She handed SIL $10 to buy candy for SILs kids.
I just remember how disappointed/hurt SIL was. She said to me "you know, my kids like candy, too." Sometimes SIL is a drama queen, but I could definately see her point.
I think the smart thing to do is to pick a cut-off age and be public about it. Let people know that when they turn....12, 13, etc - that's the end of the Easter baskets for them ("oh, you're 12, this is your last year for an Easter basket!"). And stick by that age. IMO, that is fair.
You might want to ask older kids to help put together baskets for the kids, or hide eggs, and then give them some candy for helping out.
This.
As for the Easter baskets, we only got them from our parents (aka the Easter Bunny). Aunts, uncles & cousins did so for their own children. DH and his siblings always did an egg hunt for all the kids and bought baskets for their own kids as well.
But to answer your question, I'd say no older than 10-12 for a cutoff age for your cousins. It's hard to say when a child will stop believing in the EB but by 12 I'd say they're most likely to. My 10 year old niece still believes in the EB and in Santa; but my SD was 7 when she stopped believing in EB. And Santa was ruined for her by a cousin when she was only 5.
I make Easter Baskets for my coworkers kids. However, I always ask the parents. The kids are getting to be around 11 or 12-- so I don't know if they consider it lame if Aunt Betty brings them an Easter Basket.
I have changed the contents of my Easter Basket the last couple of years. I put candy in it . Inside a couple of the plastic eggs I put an Itunes gift card, and another a set of headphones. I figure music is always outside the realm of lame.
So ask the parents. You can still do something special for older kids without necessarily making it the traditional basket.