Thank you note Etiquette

barista221

Do you send thank-you notes only to the people who brought a gift to a party?  OR do you send them to everyone who came to the party, even if they didn't bring a gift?

katarczyna

I think it depends on the kind of party.

barista221

It was an adoption party - we did kind of an open house type party.

katarczyna

I would say everyone - just to thank them for coming and meeting the LO.

Congrats, btw! 

DancingLikeTheCrackers17

katarczyna:

I would say everyone - just to thank them for coming and meeting the LO.

I agree.  And also Congrats!

lsgarver

I would disagree.  I would thank anyone who brought a gift or food (or other support) and anyone who traveled quite far to be there.  I think if you send a note thanking someone for coming it sounds like the subtext is "I'm thanking you only for coming to the party since you didn't bring me a gift I can thank you for".

I could maybe get behind a "Thanks for coming" note if there was a dual purpose, like sending photos.

6fsn

lsgarver:

I would disagree.  I would thank anyone who brought a gift or food (or other support) and anyone who traveled quite far to be there.  I think if you send a note thanking someone for coming it sounds like the subtext is "I'm thanking you only for coming to the party since you didn't bring me a gift I can thank you for".

I could maybe get behind a "Thanks for coming" note if there was a dual purpose, like sending photos.

I tend to agree with this.

Congrats on the new addition.