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Is this my bad or are people just stupid?
So we sent our baby announcements last week, and the ones we chose are these white panel cards with a lime green line-drawing of a bird, hot pink swirly text, her picture (the one in my siggy) framed in hot pink, and mailed in a hot pink envelope. They are very cute, sort of retro, and unquestionably girly.
I acknowledge that "Blair" can be an either-or gendered name, and she's wearing overalls, but considering all that today we recieved in the mail our first two congratulations cards --congratulations on our cute little son.
Son?
I didn't include in the text the word "girl" because I thought what with the pink and green card, pink envelope, swirly swashes of script, and the pink butterfly embroidered on her overalls, that writing "it's a girl" would have been redundant.
The husband is all bent out of shape and started b*tching at me that I should have mentioned she was a girl, should have picked a different picture, should have this, should have that, we wasted all that money for people to think we have a son, and on and on (so annoying!)
Should I not have assumed that the recipients of the pink and girly card would know she was a girl without the benefit of putting "it's a girl" in words? Or do you think we just happen to know some sadly stupid people?
Re: Is this my bad or are people just stupid?
Some people are just stupid!
I took Jacob out one day, he was wearing a shirt with fire trucks, & khakis, some guy in my former office said what a cute little girl, everyone corrected him, but he went on & on about how my son looked like a girl! ?OMG I was mad!
I can tell Blair is a little girl! ?I agree with the tell DH to handle it next time if he doesn't like the way you did it! ?That is what I do! ?
I think sadly some just don't pay attention. When I looked at your siggy its quite obviously that she is girl especially since there is a pink butterfly on her overalls. Why would a boy wear butterflies? Duh!
Happened to me a couple of times in public with my Celeste wearing a full on pink outfit and 2 different people asked me if its a boy or a girl...things that make me go hmmmm...
There is really no need fo DH to be upset-it happens-take a chill pill.
Well, not to take the other side... but the butterfly is not always a dead give-away that the baby is a girl. Yes to us, it seems obvious.. but to others, who might be used to "hand-me downs" or other households, were it is okay for babie to wear anything.. it might not be so obvious. I have seen many times boys dressed in things that I would think too girly and baby girls dressed in things that I think are too boyish.
Another example, a friend of mine received a gift from a co-worker. It was a beautiful scrapbook kit in pink... and my friend is having a boy. Yes, the person that gave it to her knew that she was having a boy. I asked my friend if she was upset by it or not and she said no. She said it was a beautiful book and fully intends on using it.
Yet another example, I know someone that dressed her boy in pink "girly" clothes. And sees nothing wrong with it.
I guess my whole point is, yes, the pink should have been a huge signal that Blair is a girl... and yes people dont pay attention to the obvious... but we can't always assume that everyone will see and interpret things the way we do. Hence, it might be better to state the obvious.
And your dh should not get that worked up about it. It is a simple mistake that anyone could have made, maybe even him.
People still call Madison a boy, because A) She has little hair,
We put her in denim, C) She wears black, D) Madison is a unisex name.
I was at my mom's church for the parish fair, and my cousin's ex-H, said congrats on the son. Mind you, she was wearing a red and white ladybug outfit. He said, but Madison is a boy's name. Granted he's a royal idiot (note: ex-H), but I mean, really...
We have one older guy that keeps telling us that Madi is a boy, because boys are always born first. Okay, crackhead.
Don't sweat it...the receipients will feel like idiots once they realize what a mistake they made.
I told my mom about this and she had a good laugh and didn't know what either DH or I were getting worked up about. So, sure, reflecting back a little, we were being a little nutso... but I still think the pink was a dead giveaway (btw, DH apologized for being a big spazz at me. He conceded that the announcements were not gender ambiguous!)
LOL-I love it-so I guess I am a boy-just don't tell DH-hehehe