do any of you donate eggs or have you considered it?

autumn wren

I've been thinking about it recently and am interesting in learning more about it.

lolabright

The thought has crossed my mind a few times to be honest.

autumn wren

Rusty and I were discussing it earlier, about how he wouldn't mind donating sperm (go figure) for the money it makes. When I told him it would only make about $35-$50 per donation, he asked me how much I could make with egg donation. I didn't know so he looked it up...$3000-$5000 per donation, and it's perferred that a woman only make six donations in her lifetime.

The money is a plus, but I've honestly been considering it because it would help families who have fertility issues. I don't know the process, though, and if they prefer you to have children before donating...I'm kind of nervous about it. It's definitely a thought I may definitely consider more in depth once I graduate...

FutureMrsNAH

I've considered it for the same reason, to help families with egg related fertility issues but Nick vetoed it. I would want to be a surrogate too.

lolabright

Andrew and I talked about it and he seemed to be on board with it. He was also on board when I told my sister if she didn't get pregnant the first time with IVF I would carry her baby. The only condition with that was it had to wait for after the wedding, and well you all know how that one turned out. I don't know if I could carry a stranger's baby though, I feel like I would be too attached to the baby and not want to give it up.

FutureMrsNAH

I meant to add "for the right person". I'm with you, I most likely couldn't do it for a stranger. 

autumn wren

I don't know if I could be a surrogate for anyone. I know that sounds bad, but if I were to carry a child for that long and deliver that child, I would have a really hard time parting with him/her. I understand the concept of doing it for family or a close friend, and that you could still be a part of that child's life, but how would you go about forming that relationship? Technically you birthed that child, but you are not the mother. Could you see that child grow up and not have the maternal bond with it as you feel you should? I would have a really hard time with it. Kudos to those who do...I imagine it would take a very strong person to do it. I feel the same about adoption. It has to be one of the most difficult things to give your child up.

moviesprincess

Tania and I were just talking about this last week. I would like to think that I could give that gift to someone else, especially after having problems conceiving. However, I am not sure if I could reconcile the thought that I would have a child just running around somewhere that I would never know.

crows1920

lolabright:

He was also on board when I told my sister if she didn't get pregnant the first time with IVF I would carry her baby. 

this.

i offered to be a surrogate for my sister if that was what they needed. my BIL was weird about it but it didn't matter anyway because that wasn't the issue and IVF worked.

brie&drew

moviesprincess:

Tania and I were just talking about this last week. I would like to think that I could give that gift to someone else, especially after having problems conceiving. However, I am not sure if I could reconcile the thought that I would have a child just running around somewhere that I would never know.

I'm with Whitney on this. I don't think I could donate eggs because any time I saw a little girl or boy that looked enough like me, I'd wonder. I think it's a wonderful thing to do, just not something I'm capable of.

Pookums

brie&drew:

moviesprincess:

Tania and I were just talking about this last week. I would like to think that I could give that gift to someone else, especially after having problems conceiving. However, I am not sure if I could reconcile the thought that I would have a child just running around somewhere that I would never know.

I'm with Whitney on this. I don't think I could donate eggs because any time I saw a little girl or boy that looked enough like me, I'd wonder. I think it's a wonderful thing to do, just not something I'm capable of.

This. I would love to give that gift to someone but I just don't know if I could in the end.

GeorgiePorgie101208

I thought of donating eggs way back in the day when I was out of work and deperate however, they criteria you need to meet is crazy. You literally have to be perfect in every way to be able to donate eggs.

My friend attempted to carry someone elses baby, and lost the babies twice. It was very hard for her, and her family to go through, she vowed for her own sanity to never do it again.

KathyGee

Surrogate:  No. Couldn't / wouldn't.

eggs:  I've probably only got about 3 left, and they're dusty. :-)

Rebekistan

I have absolutely considered it, and offered, to donate eggs to someone I know and love. I would be able to see the little one grow up, which is important to me, and would have tried my hardest to step back 100% from parenting and be an "aunt" with an extra-special relationship, but nothing more than an "aunt." (like Caitlynn and Tyler from Teen Mom LOL!) 

I don't think I'd want to donate to a stranger b/c of the thought of a little me running around who I would never know, and also that donating requires some process -- hormones, big needles, no sex, etc. -- that don't make it worth the money, IMO!

LindsayM

I'm not sure. It has crossed my mind a few times, but I'm not educated on the process enough to make an informed decision. However, I will say that I don't think I'd be able to do it solely for the fact that if the situation was reversed and it was DH donating sperm, I wouldn't be okay with it. The thought of another child in this world that was made up of half of DH's chromosomes and NOT completed by my chromosomes makes me all kinds of crazy sensitive. For this same reason, I wouldn't want to do it to him because he would likely feel the same way.

That said, I think it's amazing and am SO thankful for the women that are able to break those emotional attachments to an extent and donate their eggs. 

As far as surrogacy, I would do it for my sister. In fact, when she had trouble with IF and went through months of treatments, failed IVF attempts, etc., she and I discussed it. I was incredibly young (early twenties) but I would do anything for her, so we began all of the research, doctors visits and so on. Happily for her, their last go at treatment resulted in a healthy pregnancy (she had four known miscarriages prior) so it all worked out! I don't think there's anyone else that I'd feel comfortable doing that for. 

shyntrue

As someone who is looking for an egg donor, I wanted to say thank you for even considering it.  It is a wonderful gift to those who want to be mothers and for various reasons cannot with their own eggs.

My suggestion is find an RE office near you and ask them about their donor program and start there.