March 2009 Weddings
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So, is everyone still friends with all their bridesmaids? I am really starting to question whether or not my friendship with this girl is going to make it past her wedding. I know this happens sometimes and I'm just wondering if it happened with any of you girls.
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My one bridesmaid is my cousin's wife.
My cousin chose to be a douche, cheat on her, and leave her for another woman. Said mistress is now pregnant and due in October. Bridesmaid had to have a hysterectomy 20 years ago....this was a huge emotional blow.
That being said they had a very bi-polar passionate relationship to begin with.
My BM is devastated by the betrayal by her husband, and doesn't really engage with me because it reminds her of him, and the family she lost. She can't have a conversation with me with out having it evolve around him, the loss of our family....it's all really strange.
So...she's pulled away from us, and due to the do-do race of circular conversations we contantly have, I've pulled away as well.
I only had 3 bridesmaid. One is my cousin, one is my bff for 21 years and then this cousin's wife.
I intentionally chose family for this reason. Both of my BM's are SILs, so they're in my life whether they like it or not! I did have one friend that I originally asked very early on, but it quickly became apparent that things would be very difficult for her since she lived in another state. She didn't even end up coming to the wedding. We barely talk now.
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I had a huge falling out with one of my bridesmaids 3 months after my wedding.
This girl and I had been best friends since we were 7. It still upsets me sometimes and I don't regret being friends with her, but have come to the realization that she was a pretty negative person in my life who really brought me down. I blame it on myself for allowing her to have that type of impact on me.
Only 2 of my friends with BM, the rest family. So to answer your question, one is gone and sadly will never be back in my life and the other I don't see a falling out happening.
I am still friends with my bridesmaids... just don't talk to them as often.
My MOH is the friend who likes to push blame on everyone but herself for not talking as much as we used to, but we are working on that relationship a little. She's better now that she's settled into a relationship.
I only had 2 - my sister and my BFF.
I still consider her my BFF even though we don't get to talk very often. We keep in touch as best we can, with me living in TX and her in England (she is actually English). I was also her matron of honor last summer. We're on a pattern of seeing each other about every 18 months. It's an LDR. Anyway, she's moving to Tanzania in July, and we're moving to Kenya (hopefully) early next year! Mombasa to Tanzania is like Austin to Louisiana. So we won't see each other all the time, but we are planning on spending holidays together.
Yup.
My MOH was my sister, and we're still just as close as ever. I'd have been meeting her for lunch today after the MS Walk (which started and ended in her town) with my friends, but she was taking my nephew to a neighbor's kid's first birthday party (my nephew's first to attend as a guest!). We're hanging out all day next Sunday so I can get into the swing of my nephew's current schedule because I'll be watching him all day on May 1 while my sis & BIL do a 45-mile bike ride through NYC. They're a little psycho.
My 2nd bridesmaid has been a friend since I was in 8th grade & she was in 7th (1983). We just went to a party she threw in central Jersey a couple weeks ago and we'll be meeting up for her birthday in June. Also just as close as ever. I only wish she didn't stay near Rutgers after she graduated, because it means we don't hang out as much as we'd like.
My 3rd was a friend from law school (1994 or so), and we just spent the day together last Sunday. Also just as close as ever, but we also don't hang out nearly enough. We've vowed to remedy that.
And then I was supposed to have my SIL as a 4th bridesmaid, but I asked her the night I met her. She's the one who was in military college and didn't get leave. We're actually closer now then we were before the wedding.
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I chose family as well, so I don't have any experience.
I just emailed her a big long "what is going on email"...so...stay tuned.
MOH - my sister, my bestie
1st bm - sil - shes psycho, haven't talked to her since the wedding
2nd bm - my cousin, love her
3rd bm - friend from hs, she lives in Okinawa, Japan now still talk but we aren't really THAT close anymore for sure
4th bm - I am in her wedding in 6 weeks !
My sister and best friend are the only two I really had set in stone. If this whole vow renewal thing ever takes off, the other two I plan on asking are still a part of my life. My SIL...jury's still out on whether I'll ask her or not.
My sister and I are closer than ever, I think. She lives an hour away and is ridiculously busy, but I still talk to her a ton and see her at least two weekends out of every month. I'm glad I have such a solid relationship with my only sibling.
My best friend [since 5th grade] and I are still very close. We talk just about every week and see each other at least once a month. I just saw her last weekend for my birthday dinner, actually - I think we may hang out again when I go home at the end of the month.
Yep.
My MOH is my best friend and I was getting worried (because I haven't talked to her in 2 or 3 weeks) but she called me yesterday and we talked for a while.
My BM stayed at my house with her family a couple of weeks ago when we weren't there so I'd say we're still friends.