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My bride problem (long)
Okay, so if you saw my FB about getting tickets to a country concert you may have seen the little "tiff" with my gf...
Melissa Well aren't you special? Was Dierks Bentley there when you went, Braggy Pants?
Amber I'm saying "been there done that" because we thought it sucked. Too many people, you can't see the performers...and the year we went, we had to walk through mud up to our knees because the rain flooded the place. It wasn't exactly one of the "best" times that I've had...and for a first concert experience, it sucked. The drunk people are overwhelming. Maybe that is just us...but you and Clint are very similar...so I'm sure you'll have a great time! LOL
Um, whoa. Obviously my reaction was a little razor toothed, but I wasn't expecting her to freak out like that. We have been a little on edge with each other lately so I emailed her this:
I don't want you to think that I was trying to say you were bragging
about the BCB (even though I literally called you Braggy Pants...trying
to lighten the mood, obviously failed). I do want you to know that I
responded that way because your original comment really hurt my
feelings. I was really surprised when I saw it because it isn't like you
to say things that bring me down. I couldn't stop thinking about it all
night.
I know I am not always the greatest friend because it seems like I
don't make time to come down and hang out and I know I could make a
million excuses why with the baby and work and whatever. If that bothers
you, or anything else, please tell me. I am used to you being
completely honest with me and lately I have felt like you have been
holding something back. If you are mad that I didn't come to your
shower, I am sorry and you have every right to be upset with me. I have
forgotten how important this time in your life is and I have not been
making some sacrifices that I should make because this is about YOU and
not me.
That being said, I am really horribly anxious about your
bachelorette party. I am not comfortable spending the night. I have
never liked spending the night places, even when I was really little.
You will remember I drove home drunk twice when I should have stayed the
night (at your place once and Dave's the other). That is not like me,
but it was because (even in a drunken state) I do not like staying the
night at people's houses. I am more than willing to stay late that
night and have fun with you girls and go home when everyone decides to
go to sleep. But, if it means a lot to you, I will stay the night and
find a way to get over it and not be a downer.
So, your turn. Tell me what I am doing that is bothering you because
I want to work on it. Right now I am worried about our friendship.
Thoughts? I must be doing something wrong lately because this is just another event in a long series of me feeling like people are unhappy with me. (On that note, if any of you girls ever have a problem with me, please be honest with me.)
Re: My bride problem (long)
wow. thats a lot to take in.
its like the time a friend went off on me regarding Boy Meets World -- anyone remember that ? oh Lord.
did you send it already ?
i would divide into two messages - seems like there were 2 things bothering you but you just used the tickets/country show as a spring board.
are you in the wedding or just invited to the bachelorette party ? i am also like you, anxious about staying with places much less people I don't know -- it just seems like a mess no matter how you look at it.
I commend you on being the bigger person and bringing your concerns to light. It's always so hard to broach subjects like this when there are so many emotions involved.
I do think her comment was kind of rude and she was being a know-it-all braggart. Hopefully though, your email opens up a good dialogue about what's going on and you can solve it and move on.
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I just read the exchange. Honestly, I think she was being snide and I read your response as completely kidding. So then her reply was way out of left field for me, and even more snotty.
I don't think you're wrong at all, and I really think you're bending over backwards by offering to stay over for the bach party. With your anxiety, that's really above & beyond and you shouldn't have to do it.
I'd cut her a *little* slack, though, just because she's likely got wedding brain. Remember that and how it was? And I almost lost my friend John because I completely forgot about it and didn't recognize it in him when it was happening.
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That's kind of where I'm with the whole thing. I mean, she already had that with her other bridesmaid where they stepped out of each other's weddings because they were both planning their weddings and kept clashing. It is obviously affecting her.
I agree w Larissa.
Was she being a touch snooty/immature? Yes. But she has one thing and one thing only on her mind right now. See how she responds after your email. Keep us posted.