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WWYD- relocation
DH & I have often thought of moving out of state but have agreed that we don't want to leave his parents. We adore them and are super close to them. It's the only family that Oliver really has. They are in their 70s so we know they won't be around forever so we spend as much time with them as we can.
with that information.... would you move away given the opportunity? I could potentially have the opportunity to move to Raleigh, NC (can we say beautiful?!).
Does anyone have any experience with this that they could share (relocating with a young child)?! Is it hard to meet new people? Do you regret it or are you happy with the decision? Any thoughts are greatly appreciated.
Re: WWYD- relocation
Unless DH had an amazing job opportunity I don't think I could leave my mom, especially now that my dad is gone. We do frequently talk about relocating, though. My condition is if we ever did relocate DH would have to be paid enough to fly my mom there at least twice per year without feeling a pinch and we would have to have a guest suite for her to stay in.
Maybe you should just convince your ILs to relocate with you! :-)
H comes from a family that relocated frequently. I went to the same HS my parents went to and they still live there, so we have very different backgrounds. That being said, I would be okay with moving with a young family rather than having my kids changing schools.
We live close to my family and H's family is on the East coast. We've discussed our comfort level with moving. The only way it would happen is if his opportunity brought in enough money to help my family travel to see us and visit both sides of the family regularly. We both like Iowa and like being close to one side.
I wouldn't let it stop you if his parents could visit or you could come home regularly.
Nope, you can't do it. We will force you to stay.
I am torn, I would love to live someplace like that, but I am only a few hours away from my Dad. My only sibling lives in Denver, CO, so we hardly see each other (maybe 3 times a year, which is very little for us). So, having family close is key for me.
I will say, it would be awesome to have any relatives in town with a small child. We struggle trying to figure out how to travel everywhere for holidays, spending gas money (especially now) to go to the Omaha area a few times over the summer for stuff and not having a babysitter that we can rely on in town for K. But, with all that said, I would say if all the stars aligned, I would consider, but the job would have to be worth it. Tough choice!!!
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DH and I talk about relocating often. It may be necessary at some point. I am from SE Iowa and DH is from KC so Des Moines is about as central as you can get for us. DH is from KC and would love to live there again. My mom is pushing 70 and I worry about how she would travel to visit us. My dad passed away almost 5 years ago so all trips to visit would be on her own. Driving to Des Moines every month or two on her own is a lot different than driving to KC where we would probably live way south. I also would feel bad for my mom that she wouldn't get to see my kids as often while DH's parents would see them more regularly. Selfishly, I want my kids to see my mom as much as DH's (or more which isn't fair either).
If your DH's parents would be willing/able to relocate with you, then that would make a big difference. I have a fascination with TN, KY, NC and part of me would like to live there. Lots to do, less cold weather, very scenic.
If your DH's parents can't move with you, then you have to weigh out how often you could see them and what if their health got bad. I considered moving to Charlotte several years ago. I didn't and the next year my dad had bypass surgery and the following year he was diagnosed with ALS. If I had moved, I would have high tailed it back here. His bypass surgery happened within a day and I wouldn't have been able to get back in time for it. On the other hand my aunt moved to TX 20 some years ago and my nearly 91 year old grandma still flies to visit once a year.
Good luck with your decision. If you end up moving, I hope it is a wonderful move!
First of all, I can't imagine you having a problem meeting people -- here, in Raleigh, or anywhere! So I think you'd be fine wherever you go
And, like others, I'd say that moving with a young child would be better than moving with children in their later years of school. My grandparents moved between my mom's junior & senior year in high school, and it was a pretty awful experience for her. If you & DH both have the itch to go somewhere eventually, now may be the perfect time.
For me, I've realized that I'm too dependent on being close (in proximity) to my family to move away again. I lived out-of-state for 1 year on my own -- had a terrible experience (for a variety of reasons) -- and told DH back before we even got married that I would not be moving away again. Aside from the winter weather, I love it here.
Good luck! In situations like this, a friend & I have often gotten together to make a pro/con list to really think through the implications of each decision. I'm sure you guys will know it when it's right.
Shea,
Do you remember Mindy Morgan? I am 100% sure she could give you some pointers since she moved there, about 3-4 years ago. She had a small child when they moved and she can give you info. on the schools there etc. now that Nick is in school.
Good Luck.
Jen