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What would you do?
So lets' say you came home and your husband says "I just got off the phone with my mom....shes said she thinks you don't like her....or my dad".... Would you...
A.) Laugh hysterically and how ridiculous that is.....?
B.) Call her an over sensitive overbearing mother who needs to stop stiring up crap and get over herself....?
C.) Send her an email telling her how this is absolutely ridiculous, that you love both of them very much, and ask her to please back off and to stop stressing out your husband and making him feel stuck in the middle...when there is no "middle" to begin with....?
D.) All of the above
Re: What would you do?
Did she give an example or was it just a random complaint?
Just as random as can be.... That was one of my main points. Did she give any examples? No... Have we ever had any disagreements or altercations? No... Have I ever been rude to her or a hateful b!tch? No.... RANDOM...so random...
She needs to be more specific so you can address her feelings. If she doesn't have a "good" reason to feel this way then I would tend to think she might be stiring the pot a little.
I have little patience for people that do that.
And thank you! This was her first portrait session and it was unbelievable that we actually got pictures of her smiling.
Little patience for people who do that....my point exactly....PISSIN ME OFF
And she hasn't responded to my email yet (sent on Sunday)...I would call her but my husband is gone until Friday, and I feel he needs to be there to "witness" the phone conversation so it won't be her word against mine. Absolutely ridiculous... I haven't done anything to her and the fact that she came right out and said this to him...not me...is a joke. This is the same lady who said "she can come out here and visit" when I was sick in bed with the flu with a 104 temp AND this is the same lady who asks where past gifts are at in our house and wants to see them...(flower vase) and what I used the $500 on she gave me as a gift for my bridal shower....*karate chopping tables*
I'll karate chop with you -- I hate stuff like that.
I usually try to fix things... ask for examples then try to clarify, etc... but sometimes there's nothing to fix except the other person involved and unfortunately you can't fix it when that's the case.
MY BLOG!
Can there be an "e"? I vote for ignore her - she's stirring up trouble to get a reaction in a desperate play for attention from your DH. DON'T FEED THE TROLL!!
What does your DH do/say when she says stuff like that? If I were you, I'd be coaching him on option "a"!
"Don't be rediculous Mom - my karate chopping vase disliking wife adores you and all the gifts that you've given that come with long strings attached. She has never given you the slightest reason to think that she doesn't love and appreciate you and I'd appreciate it if you never brought up something quite so far fetched and crazy again." ought to do it.
Ok - maybe with a little less passive-aggressiveness.
LMAO....This karate chopping daughter in law will not be feeding the troll anytime soon... The whole thing is an immature attention production towards DH. I've been nothing but nice to her and have been with DH for over 8 years and never had any problems until we got married. She's just having a hard time letting go I guess, but don't make crap up. DH is a direct person, but when it comes to his parents, they treat him like the perfect son and he has a hard time standing up to them? Me on the other hand...I've been talking back to my parents since I came out of the womb.
I know this is just a preview of what is to come (especially when we decide to have children) and I have bit my tongue in the past (vase, shower gift, showing up at grandpa's wedding and treating him and the bride like absolute crap and refusing to sit in the front row of the church to support him) but I just feel like she's being ridiculous....and if this escalates anymore I will be happy to grab DH's cell phone and have a little chat.
Thanks ladies! Knowing that I'm not a crazy heinous b!tch makes me feel better...
I'm late to this game but
a) you are not, nor could you be (unless provoked
), a crazy heinous b!tch.
b) your DH is going to have to make a stand eventually or this will never end.
c) don't let her get you down.
We are going through something similar with DH's brother right now and we are both (me and DH) completely over it. And you are right, having children will make it worse.
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PS: MIL called DH last night and said that she was very upset by my email and doesn't know how to respond...well then maybe she should keep her mouth shut if she CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!
PPS: DH decided to tell me last night that she has said this before...about a year ago....I laughed my ass off....