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People are idots. **UPDATED**
Ok, so here's the story. This will get long.
I coordinate weddings on the side. Mostly day-of and help with invites and such. I probably do around 3 or 4 a year and most of them have been for sorority sisters and friends. I hate to toot my own horn, but I'm pretty good at it so I have been starting to get calls from people though friends.
Well, last October (the 14th to be exact), a sorority sister of mine who was a freshman when I was a senior, facebooked me asking if I would coordinate her wedding that is on April 16. On October 18, I replied and said that I would love to help out and that I would mark my calendar and to let me know what she needed.
Never heard back from her.
Last night, she facebooked me at 7:30 pm with this message:
Hey girl! Just wanted to let you know the rehearsal for the wedding is this friday at 5:30 at Methodist Church on XX lane. I really just want you there to help deligate and tell people what to do and keep everything organized and going. After rehearsal we will have dinner and drinks at Country Club.
On the wedding I will give you my phone if thats ok to help people set up or answer any questions they might have... ive given the cake lady, dj, photo booth, etc my phone # but explained that you would be answering it that day! I am going to make a schedule of everything going on that day for you. We will be getting ready all morning and starting pictures at 2:00. We will be playing a slideshow at 5:00-5:30 right before the ceremony and then the ceremony will begin at 5:30. Ill also give you any checks that need to be given to people before or right after ceremony like the videographer, pianist and vocalist! Let me know if there is anything else i am forgetting im sure you have more experience at this than me:)! Im hoping to go through all the little things that will need to be done that day on friday with you.... like showing you where i want the dj, cake, photbooth set up and how i want us announced, etc. I really appreciate you taking time to help me on my big day!
Me = 
then, WTF.
I never heard back from her in October confirming whether or not she actually wanted me to help.
So I facebooked her back with my email and phone number and explained that since I hadn't heard anything from her since October confirming she wanted to use me, I assumed she didn't need me and had made other arrangements. I told her that, luckily, I had it on my calendar and didn't have anything else planned. I gave her my price ($500) and told her to email me with a list of vendors, wedding party, ceremony order, all people involved with the wedding, and reception itinerary.
She facebooked me back (please note that she did not email me like I asked) and asked what it would cost for me to just do the day of because she hadn't budgeted for that amount and then proceeded to list the bridal party with no other info.
Again, me = 
then, WTF.
I responded back that I do not feel comfortable doing just the day of because I like to run through everything to work out kinks and timing. I told her I don't feel comfortable coming in the day of and running the entire ceremony and reception. Hell, she never even told me where the reception was! I told her that if she could not afford the $500, I would bring it down to $300 to just do the rehearsal and the ceremony (no reception).
No response back from her.
I cannot fathom thinking it is ok to not follow up with your supposed wedding coordinator. Had she followed up and confirmed she wanted me, I would have given her a price and I would have met with her at least twice to work out all of the details, plan an itinerary, get contact info, etc...
Did she expect I would do if for free?
Isn't that NUTSO?!
UPDATE:
UGH. She responded back last night (ON FACEBOOK) at 7:30pm with this message:
Hey! Sorry i dont have internet hooked up at my house yet so i have to use it when i can:). I completely understand not wanting to just do it the day of because i feel the same way about being prepared. I was waiting to talk to you until i had all my planning done so i could give you everything, im sorry i should have touched base with you before. I would love to have you both days i just really have to crunch down on my budget because while ive been very smart with some things, we did go over on a few things that we wanted. I could do $300 but i completely understand if this isnt ok i do not want you to feel like you are put on the spot at all i just had not budgeted that much for this part! It would be just to help the vendors set up ( guide the party booth and dj in the right direction and make sure my ribbon gets put on my cake) and other than that i just really wanted someone to help with reception to make sure we are going by a good schedule so everything gets done (all the dance, speeches, etc) and i can relax and enjoy a little bit. Just let me know what you think. I am by a computer right now so i can email you some information also.
So yeah, she totally thought I was going to do it for free.
I didn't respond last night because I was pissed she sent that to effing facebook and not my email like any professional would do. She also had my cell phone number because I had given it to her in the facebook message I sent last. Didn't call.
I am thinking about messaging her back and telling her I will do the rehearsal, get the vendors set up and do the ceremony for $300 but if she wants me at the reception, it will be $500.
And yes, today is Thursday and this is all supposed to happen tomorrow. WTF.
Re: People are idots. **UPDATED**
Have fun with this one. You'll have to let us know how it goes.
Yes, people are idiots. You were a lot nicer than I would have been.
I'm willing to bet you don't hear back from her. I'm sure she thought you would do it for free.
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I think I made those exact faces as I was reading. Say What? Girl is crazy to think she could contact you barely a week before the wedding without having confirmed anything with you, and you would be available and she wouldn't have to pay for your services.
For really close friends/family I could see you doing it for free (or even as a gift to them), but other than that no way. ANd really thinking you could just show up the day of without having met with her in advance or knowing where the reception even is? What? I can't believe she would assume you were free. I mean not even offer to pay you anything to do this...
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Uuuuggggh- that stressed me out just reading that! She is absolutely crazy to think that 1) You would do something like that for free and 2) That she could just email you the WEEKEND before and expect you to just be there!
People are, indeed, idiots.
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I still haven't heard from her! I'm finished worrying about it. I'm not getting on facebook the rest of the day to check. If she truly needs my help, she can email me like I asked, or call me on my cell phone, which I provided.
This type A doesn't work like that. I'm having anxiety attacks thinking about having to get everything done!
WOW!! She's crazy!!
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