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Re: Advice needed on serious issue
AWGC.
And I have to ask, why did you marry this man 10 months ago? You had to know about the problems with SS, and how could you not realize that your husband is doing nothing to deal with his SS's obvious issues? I can't believe your husband keeps buying him pets.
OK - every last person said get out and clearly you know you should. Don't wait, pack your things and go.
On the off chance this isn't MUD (and if it is, hats off to you), get out BEFORE THE BABY IS BORN. Go somewhere far away where your H can't easily access you. If you do this BEFORE THE BABY IS BORN, then allowing him visitation just got like 1000x harder.
GET OUT.
And get a new therapist.
I honestly believe that your SS is a sociopath, he needs some serious counseling, but that really won't help if he is a sociopath. Do some reasearch, see for you self that these are signs of a sociopath, they have no conscious, he feels nothing for others.
You need to get out of this situations because your husband sees nothing wrong with his son. nothing will change for you, it will only get worse. please get out now before anything happens to your child.
Count me in too. I was thinking Canada. I am not completely sure on there laws on parental rights but at least so she could hide from this guy until the kid was born and she was all healed up so she could fly somewhere else.
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This!
Document, document, document. And I agree with L - get a new therapist! The one you have is on crack!
Is your therapist an actual mental health professional, or a member of the clergy?
I actually don't think you should have unsupervised access to your child, either. Your emotional problems clearly lead you to make poor choices, exposing your kid to potentially dangerous situations, and all so you can make a pathetic attempt to "save" someone. Please consider adoption.
What?
This. RUN, now. Get the eff out while you can.
People who torture animals grow up to kill and torture people. Your SS does not care for the most vulnerable of living creatures - pets. His next step is going to be to hurt or molest your baby.
Get out, now. Divorce your H and make a condition that your SS is never to be allowed near your child, even if that means that s/he doesn't see H. Document EVERYTHING. Start contacting the police or animal control if he hurts animals.
I don't agree that the dad may be the bad guy. If SS has ever had a fall on his head / head trauma, he could have damage that make him unable to feel empathy. That's strictly physical. However, it doesn't matter. Get the fvck away!!!
Please for the love of god.... take your cats and leave.... for the sake of yourself and your unborn child.... That kid is NOT WELL as in it sounds like a Serial Killer in the making.... please please please leave!!
If that kid hurts animals like this.... what do you think he is going to do to the new baby....? GET OUT!!!
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.
Ditto. I'd rather give birth in some dirty hovel of a 3rd world country than deal with Jeffrey Dahmer, JR.
I am so appalled at your poor decision making skills. I find you a vile human being. I truly hope CPS gets involved and that the baby and SS are taken away. They both need to be placed in homes where they can receive love, discipline and any help they need.
And though I appreciate everyone's response to protect the baby, you didn't protect that baby by procreating. Now all you want to do is protect the baby and walk out on the SS without ever doing anything to help him. Sickening!!
Beginning to think MUD.
She isn't even responding to anyone's comments.
Another lurker here, but I can't keep quiet on this because maybe if you hear it enough times, you will understand ~ this child is not going to stop. You need to get your priorities in order and while we may live in another world where this stuff is going on, you not acting will not help.
How will you feel when your unborn child is tortured and murdered like one of his pet experiments?
Will you be able to explain to the police why this happened even though the red flags were up and flying in full force?
Believe me, no over-reaction here ~ this will happen if you don't take some action (and responsibility) and do what you need to do as a parent to protect YOUR OWN child.
Call:1-800-799-SAFE(7233
http://www.thehotline.org/
Then leave.
Ditto this exactly. Holy hell woman, get out now.
But yeah....on another note, she only has 4 posts. I'm thinking MUD too.
MUD = Made Up Drama
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a27212323/how_do_i_deal_with_this_sneaky_little_brat_pleas?intcmp=Rel_SP_post
I can appreciate your concern for the SS, but the OP can't help him if his dad isn't on board. If the dad was working with his kid, I could see your point. However, Dad isn't helping his son, she can't force the son to get any type of treatment, and because of that her baby will be in danger.
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Interesting. She didn't response at all in that thread either. I'm thinking MUD.
Please leave NOW. QUICKLY! ! !