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Body Image rant
(Before I type this, I feel the need to mention that I do not suffer from low self-esteem. I know I'm pretty darn awesome. If anything, a lower opinion of myself might be helpful in getting my expanding butt to the gym!)
So the other day, I was in the bathroom at work washing my hands, talking to a friend, when I happened to glance in the mirror. Then I did a double-take ... but it took me a minute to figure out why.
When my reasoning caught up with my thoughts, I realized that I'd just looked at myself in the mirror and had been quite pleased with what I saw: My skin was clear, makeup was good, the sweater was a really flattering blue, my hair was shiny ... all great!
The reason I did a double take (and this is SO messed up) is that for a split second, I thought, "Wait a second. I'm fat, I have acne, and my makeup is ALWAYS bad at this time of day. I'd better check again ... that first impression can't be right."
Since I became aware of that twisted inner monologue, I've noticed myself doing it a couple more times. It's been a reminder of how badly women judge themselves, to a ridiculous level. Amirite?
I mean, ladies: Vagazzling is a real thing.
Discuss.
Re: Body Image rant
i hear ya! we're our worse judges
you should totally check this website out.. http://www.curvygirlguide.com/ some awesome bloggers write on there..it's basically everything from - body issues to sex. i love it..and they also have a community much like this one
the whole vajazzling thing..too weird
I know I go through spurts where I'm either content/feeling good or really critical. I've actually noticed that I become very critical about a week before my period, and then halfway through my period start feeling better. Also, how well I'm eating, and how much sleep and exercise I am getting play a big role in how I feel about myself day to day.
I've been more in a critical phase right now. Hmm..maybe it's just the weather up here right now!
I actually just went to Sephora's today to buy a few new skin care products. These are items I've wanted for months, but keep talking myself out of buying. I finally realized I just need to treat myself to them! I also plan on stopping by Target on the way home to see if there anything I want to buy for a quick fix to my wardrobe.
So I guess my fix is therapy shopping! haha But seriously, most of the time eating better and exercising makes me feel better.
I don't think vagazzling as anything to do with women judging themselves, their self-esteem, body image, etc. I think it stems from an obsession with sticking sparkly stuff to anything possible in order to make it even prettier. I'm pretty sure preschool/kindergarten is to blame for vagazzling when it all comes down to it.
I'm sorry, what was this thread about? Oh right...
I hear ya. I was spoiled until around 23 and could scarf down a mountain of mac and cheese and still be model thin. Now I have to be very careful about what I eat and I'm on WW. I have had moments similar to yours where I look in the mirror am shocked that I'm not fat at all/look pretty good. I think, because of the time/energy I put into monitoring what I eat to avoid gaining and hopefully lose those last 5 pounds, it lends me to subconsciously thinking that I'm bigger than I am. Mind you, I'm not anorexic in the slightest, but it is easy to forget you're fairly thin when you spend just as much time watching your weight as you would if you were fat.
I think my self-esteem is something like, "Hey, I'm pretty hot! ... I mean... I think so ... right? Hm..."
Women don't want to hear what men think,
women want to hear what they think, in a deeper voice
I hear ya! It's so sad that we're trained to put so much importance on appearance. It's subconscious at this point. And we perpetuate it by doing it to ourselves, and to other women by judging them on their appearance.
Not just vagazzaling, but the billions spent on the whole cosmetic industry out there. Your vagazzling is how I feel about "primer." Seriously, there's a facial cosmetic product designed to cover up flaws and act as a base for a fake, painted top coat. We're not walls, we're beautiful human bodies!
I swear, sometimes I wish I had a kid so I could raise her to rise above so many things that women today struggle with that they shouldn't and to do my part to change the female gender role into one that's actually modern and equal.