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Wedding last night: Is this really my fault?
It was of a teacher/ friend who flew to my wedding 2 summers ago. She has an eclectic group of friends from school. 2 of which, I don't get along with. I didn't start it and they are difficult people that most of our school has problems with. They say rude and nasty things and I just ignore it. Never heard an apology.
So, DH and I ended up at a seperate table. Then they wanted a group picture of the teachers, so I stood on the one side. But they wanted me to stand next to one of them- the one that I actually filed a letter of harassment on. The only thing I did was try to get her to do her job in my classroom- pay attention to the lesson so you know how to help them, not sit in the back and read the paper, watch them so they don't run away, ect. Anyway, one of the husbands said we know you don't like her, it's just a picture. (Really? Maybe you should hear my side of the story.)
I was already getting tired and then I get Braxton Hicks. So many, that all pregnant women would start to wonder and then thinking about DH going away soon to DR and just being hormonal and pregnant... all too much at one time.
Then DH gets upset about leaving early again. He hates leaving parties. I just do not have the talent to get along with very difficult people and laugh off their inappropriateness and rudeness. The last thing one said to me was she felt sorry for the students in my class that they had me as a teacher. Do I hold grudges, maybe, but there was never an apology.
Re: Wedding last night: Is this really my fault?
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Personally, I dont see a "fault" issue here if you left because you were uncomfortable with your B.H. contractions, ya know?
I think it was big of you to pose next to a picture, but it also seems as if it was a little antagonistic on their part to ask you to stand next to the person that you filed a complaint against. *I assume they know you made a complaint, and were trying to push your buttons.
Look, you came, you saw and you left. Who says you have to be the last one out? I personally think your husband should try to be a little more understanding ESPECIALLY because of how far along you are - you're a trooper for going.
Dont let em get you down, brush them right off.
Thanks ladies.
DH has been going by himself or we've been driving seperately to things. But this was my friend's wedding. I thought she could have mixed the tables better, so it wasn't like I was in a time-out, because I didn't get along with her two rude, nasty friends. Just too embarrassing. DH plays it cool all the time and doesn't get it.
I think the hosts were wrong to treat you like the outcast and then to put you in the awkward position of the picture. And your DH wasn't being terribly sensitive.
Not your fault, you were in a bad spot and nobody seemed to be on your side and that stinks.