Shower invite wording

JackieO1114

I'm hosting a baby shower for a friend.  I'm working on the invites right now, and not sure if I should put her wife's name on the invite, as well.  The friend is the one carrying the child, but her wife will also be the child's mother, obviously.  WWYD?  I know the wife's friends are also having a shower for the couple. 

JoySeattle

I would ask the friend. If it's a surprise shower, I would put both names. Would you include someone's husband's name in the case of a heterosexual couple? I know that if a friend of mine threw a shower and didn't include my partner, we would both think it was odd.

2dBride

They will both be the child's mothers.  In the case of a heterosexual couple, often the shower is given only for the mother, not the father, but I consider that a rather sexist tradition.  In a case in which there are two mothers, there is even less justification for not including both of them.

Kershnic

I would go with including both names as a default, unless you're certain that no one will be offended by only including your friend.

JackieO1114

Spoke to my friend and she said to please include her wife on the invite, as well. She was touched that I would even ask!

Two*True

JackieO1114:

Spoke to my friend and she said to please include her wife on the invite, as well. She was touched that I would even ask!